notmakingsense Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 I've been in an on-again, off-again relationship for two years. It has taken me this long to grow a pair and express my frustration with her lack of commitment and communication. I totally fell for this woman, and other than feeling like I'm the one that is more into her, than she is in to me, I think we'd actually be able to make things happen. I rationalized things for two years now, and its time for me to be more of a man and put my foot down. She's very stubborn and strong, and putting my foot down will end things for sure -- but I'm now ready to accept that. But... I've got a problem with how to go about it. Whenever something in her life is upsetting her (may not even be me -- or "us"), she absolutely refuses to communicate until I've worked at it long enough that she finally resurfaces. Well, she's in one of those periods right now, and she currently isn't returning e-mails or voice-mails. I've left about 3 each of them over a period of 4 days... Do I just leave it at that and quit trying to get her to talk to me? Do I write her a lengthy note that ends it via the written word? Problem is, is that I'm hugely frustrated because I can't have the closure that I think I'd get by talking with her about ending it. I also don't want to have this big one-sided e-mail dumping, when she may be upset and not talking because of something that has totally nothing to do with me. Sorry for the long note. What do you think?
travellingman Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 you're trying too hard, you need to stop contacting her you'll be saying more by telling her nothing
Author notmakingsense Posted December 10, 2005 Author Posted December 10, 2005 Man.... I really want to tell her off! This is so frustrating trying to move on when you haven't had "the talk." What should I do if she calls? Ignore her like she ignores me? Give her a taste of her own medicine and initiate NC? Or should I use that opportunity to have the break-up talk?
travellingman Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Either completely ignore her or tell her firmly, not in a wordy e-mail, that it's over.
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