badgirlfriend Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Has anyone ever broken up with someone and the other person has NOT wanted to end it at all? There is no major problems in my relationship, but I want to leave. A moral question, is this right or fair? This guy has never done anything except be kind and loving, and I know he loves me more than anything. He does not want to end the relationship. I am eating myself with guilt. I don't want to hurt him.
heartbrokenjohn Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 it sounds like what has happened to me, i was the guy you mentioned, i was with her for about 4 months, on friday she finished me, because she felt i loved her more than she loved me. i was heart broken, i feel my heart has been ripped out and nailed to a wall, she said it in a nice way and wanted us to be friends. i havent eaten in a day, i feel ill and sick. i cant get over this.
AltplanB Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Tell him you need time to figure out whats bothering you. If he really loves you then he deserves to know why. If you don't know why now, just tell him that you are working on your feelings for him and you just need time. Tell him that you both need time apart but that at some point you can meet up and discuss your relationship, maybe start things anew with a brand new feel.
westernxer Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Has anyone ever broken up with someone and the other person has NOT wanted to end it at all? That's usually the way it works. If you hurt him, oh well. Breaking up hurts. That's why it sucks so bad.
slubberdegullion Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Has anyone ever broken up with someone and the other person has NOT wanted to end it at all?Happens all the time I don't want to hurt him. No matter what you do, he's going to be hurt. I'm not a fan of the whole "let's take a break" or "I need my space to figure things out" scenarios, because they are often just masks to hide the true intent of leaving. So be gently clear and direct with him, and know that it's going to hurt both him and you. If he is as good a guy as you say he is, then he deserves the truth.
Kengne II Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 Happens all the time No matter what you do, he's going to be hurt. I'm not a fan of the whole "let's take a break" or "I need my space to figure things out" scenarios, because they are often just masks to hide the true intent of leaving. So be gently clear and direct with him, and know that it's going to hurt both him and you. If he is as good a guy as you say he is, then he deserves the truth. Very well said! K.
CaliGuy Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 I agree. Just be honest with him. It'll be easier for him to take. Don't be friends though, that'll be too hard on him. You need your space for whatever reason and if you give him the hope of a quick reconcilliation it will take him much longer to heal. Do remember if your feelings change later he may not be available anymore. If you're leaving him, make sure this is what you truly want. If there's something you both can do to make things work then talk about it. Otherwise if you're determined to leave, make it a clean break. Anything else will just leave a mess.
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