Bubster Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Hi all I’m new 2 this forum. I stumbled across this site a few days ago n have been reading a lot of the posts. My situation is I was in a short relationship, for 3 months. She is 18 with a baby, n I’m 21. I don’t drink 2 often, n I don’t smoke. She stated smoking again after our breakup. She had stopped smoking when she found she was pregnant. Ok it’s been 2 months since she dumped me. She tells me she’s not ready 4 a relationship. We’ve been through a lot of s*** since, some of it on my behalf. So last Friday, I send her a msg, n canceled plans on Saturday n basically said I’m going to give her space, n cool things off between us. She replies with thank u n so we started NC. Within 2 days I get a msg from her, nuttin special, it went “hey I know were not meant 2 b talking, but I’ll just like 2 say hey”.the next nyt I get a goodnyt msg. the day afta that shes askin about a price on a car. For all these msg’s I didnt reply. A few hours afta the last msg she calls! I was stunned, n pissed at her cos I was actually thought I was getting somewhere, n I felt like she cheated in a game. I go all silent, n shes like wat u been up 2, n I just answered her Q’s with 1 word answers. Afta a bit I say that I gotta get back 2 work. Since then we haven’t talked, but I’ve since been finding it really hard. We both still love each other, n we treat each other with a lot of care, never meaning 2 hurt each other. We were having the best of times with each other after our break up. Even better than wen we were 2getha. But now I’m just lost. I’m trying 2 get on with my life, figure out what I want. She has told me that she wants 2 get back with me, a few weeks ago, but wat would b going through her head now? Would she b trying 2 get ova me again? Do I let her know that I wanna still b with her, or continue nc until she contacts me? we get along really well. Were different people, bet in a good way, n were not heading in different directions. So any help, opinions are grateful. Thanks in advance
Art_Critic Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 When a woman tells you she is not ready to be in a relationship you believe her and give her exactlly what she asks for .... Sorry but she isn't into you .. On a side note.. this isn't a cell phone .. using cell text message writing in an online forum isn't the best way to get a lot of responses to your post
Author Bubster Posted December 10, 2005 Author Posted December 10, 2005 On a side note.. this isn't a cell phone .. using cell text message writing in an online forum isn't the best way to get a lot of responses to your post oh i didn't think that it would b a problem. When a woman tells you she is not ready to be in a relationship you believe her and give her exactlly what she asks for .... Sorry but she isn't into you .. yea i've thought about that b4, but the only difference between her other ex bf's is that i'm a bit older, i dont hit or yell at her,n i'm supposely hotter .u c our big problem is she isn't clear on this at all. i always thought our big problem is with her daughter. Wen we go out its not just the 2 of us. at 1st it was really weird 4 me, but we sorted this out, n now were all good wit it. she has very long days, n sleepless nyts. our relationship moved really fast, n she has told me it scared her. she has also told me its weird 4 her 2 trust some1 so much. afta our breakup she just couldnt make up her mind. she sometimes wanted 2 b alone, n at times so did i,i also dont want wat we have cos its also 2 soon in my life.not that i want 2 experement around, but yea 2 much 2 soon. she even told me several times that she finds it really hard not 2 b wit me, n is REALLY confused. i didnt like doing this 2 her, so i backed off big time, 2 help both of us out, but now shes pressing on2 me. i know its just 3 months, n i always thought that it was just lust 4 her, n i told her this 2, but we've both found out the hard way it isn't. sometimes i feel like she is holding on2 me untill she is ready 4 us. our futures aren't in different directions, n she wants me 2 b wit her through her life,n vise versa. she is a top chick, n treates me really good.
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