kjo314 Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 On Friday my g.f of 1 1/2 years broke up with me. Todya she sent me this. Hey Kenny, I know it's been awhile since we've talked. I thought this might be better than talking on the phone for a bunch of different reasons. I thought that if I wrote you, it might be easier to understand what I am saying (I know for me this is true....I am a really visual-type person...anyway...). I wanted to make sure that you understood my reasons for breaking up with you. Please understand that it wasn't anything you could've done to change it, but really a basic personality difference. I feel that we are growing in different directions and that isn't because of the long-distance. I feel we are fundamentally different people. And It's something that I have to do for me right now. I just feel like we are too good of friends to be boyfriend and girlfriend. I care about you, I still love you (whether you believe that or not). I just wasn't getting out the relationship the types of things I think I want: emotional intimacy (ugh....psych term....sorry), respecting of boundaries, etc. Yes, those things can change. But I feel like we've tried for so long....and issues just keep popping up....it just is exhausting at a time when I can't deal with added stress. For now I need things to be simple. I feel like I was nagging you time and unable to reciprocate your feelings for me. I felt like it was unfair to you. I don't understand why they aren't there....they aren't. I don't think it is because of the long-distance. When I am around you at home (and we aren't talking about issues) I notice I feel loved and safe and warm....but not passionately head-over-heels. I just don't think it's fair to either of us. I would've stayed in the relationship feeling guilty and you would've been feeling inadequate. I hope you can understand a bit better now, and that you might like to be friends in the future. I love you and wish the best in life, because you deserve it! Sincerely, xxx (moderator removed name to preserve anonymity) It sound to me like she is just very confused and can't deal with the stress of any realtionship right now. She just moved down to Florida from Ohio and we have been long distance since August. I love her so much and I don't want to lose her. Please help. Her frined seems to think that once she clears her head and starts to think she will come back to me. I don't know.... I don't want to lose her.
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