zara Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 Ok, here's the situation - my bf and i broke up for a couple of weeks and during that time a friend of his who was attracted to me flirted with me and invited me to a party where he will be dj-ing. My bf was also invited to this party. Now my bf and i have got back together and he is upset that his friend has been flirting with me and invited me to the party - his immediate reaction was to want to confront him and ask what he was playing at trying to get with me, but i don't want him to be confrontational and said that i think if we go to the party together and make it very obvious that we're together then that should get the message across with no need for aggression. However, my bf would like his friend to know that he is aware of his actions and intentions and that he has no chance of coming between us - Does anyone have any suggestions as to how my bf can do this without direct aggressive confrontation?
JS17 Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 It doesn't have as much to do with you as it does with their friendship. You could be any girl he dated. His friend broke the code and the trust in their friendship. Every guy I know has been through this and sometimes it amazed me the anger that they still harbor for the friend. Some of them were able to continue the friendship and some weren't but the trust in the friendship never comes back. There will be a confrontation and there's nothing you can do about it. My only advice to you is to try to steer your boyfriend to have the conversation with his friend away from a party situation. Alcohol will escalate things and could push it to a physical confrontation. If you can, let the friend know that your boyfriend will be talking to him about what happened so he's not caught off guard and he can think of ways ahead of time to diffuse the confrontation.
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