johan Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 I feel like hell tonight. I'm being such a wuss. I'm not doing anything I should be doing, I'm just waiting for bedtime. I feel like a jerk for not mailing my ex some things I promised. I never mail stuff to people, but she wanted me to. She's probably thinking if I can't even bother to do that, then how much must I really love her? I was going through pictures tonight. That set me off. We looked happy together. And she's the definition of cute and hot. Just never had the spark in her heart for me that would have made it a sure thing. She might have felt it, but we just couldn't seal the deal. Grrr. I just miss her a lot.
Art_Critic Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 Sorry you are feeling down.. I feel for you ...
meltwithme Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 YO try to stop looking, if you cant get rid of them atleast go rent a locker like 20 min drive from your house so it will have to be a pain in the ass to go look at her and you will start to realize it's only a waste of time and energy. I know, it's really difficult but understand that it would be best for you to get rid of that right now.
Painwraith Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 The more you look at the pictures the worse you will be. The more you send her messages or emails the worse youll be. The more you chase after her to be friends the faster she will run with a disgusted look on her face.. dont do it. spend an evening telling yourself everything she has done and not to be stupid and cut up about it... it actually scarily works... and like I have said before, if it gets too much imagine stuffing her into a box, chaining it closed and putting it in a thick vault, then walk away... Its kinda thereputic. after a while you look at it more neutrally. Pain
JS17 Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 Sorry you're feeling down Johan. You know you're not a wuss for having feelings. Shocker. Now mail her her s*** back! One of my stupid ex's won't mail me my stuff back or even drop it off including a book I lent to him that I have made clear has sentimental value. It's the only thing that makes me hate him. jirk Mail her stuff back.
slubberdegullion Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 Hope you're feeling better this morning, Johan. But mail her stuff back. You don't need it cluttering up your life or your house.
In Sync Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 Johan, You have been here for many of us...with your words and insight...and all that I can come up with at this moment is a bunny hug ((( ))) Hang in there. P.S. As for the pics, what's so important about those pics that you need to mail them to her. Forgetta about em. Bury them in the past. Do not mail them to her because it's like a form of contact isn't it? We all know you cared you don't need to show her that you're a good guy by mailing back her junk.
Author johan Posted December 9, 2005 Author Posted December 9, 2005 You guys are all awesome for responding. I dug a little emotional hole for myself last night. The mail thing is just something she wanted, it's not hers. It's a favor I said I'd do. And the pictures are all buried deep in my file directory on my computer. I don't look at them except this time I wanted to send some to a friend. I keep reminding myself that we didn't take pictures when we were having hard times. Seeing pictures of her being selfish would make it a little easier. Anyway, thanks! Things are better this morning. I always do hope that she'll call me up and make some kind of move to put things back together. I think her feelings and mine were (are) strong enough. There's just lot of other insecurities and pride in the way. That stuff is mostly hers and it's why we're apart now.
JS17 Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 The mail thing is just something she wanted, it's not hers. It's a favor I said I'd do. You want her back. Don't you think this would be a nice gesture? Stop being a d1ckwad and start treating her better then maybe she'll come back. you know i only mean this in the best way
Art_Critic Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 I agree with Js...You don't want to plummet any chance down the toilet You want her back. Don't you think this would be a nice gesture? Stop being a d1ckwad and start treating her better then maybe she'll come back. you know i only mean this in the best way
In Sync Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 You guys are all awesome for responding. I dug a little emotional hole for myself last night. The mail thing is just something she wanted, it's not hers. It's a favor I said I'd do. And the pictures are all buried deep in my file directory on my computer. I don't look at them except this time I wanted to send some to a friend. I keep reminding myself that we didn't take pictures when we were having hard times. Seeing pictures of her being selfish would make it a little easier. Anyway, thanks! Things are better this morning. I always do hope that she'll call me up and make some kind of move to put things back together. I think her feelings and mine were (are) strong enough. There's just lot of other insecurities and pride in the way. That stuff is mostly hers and it's why we're apart now. I'm confused a bit. Are you and the gf, just at odds. (Was it a mutual breakup?) Or has anyone broken it off. I maen if you are speaking with one another why not just lay everything on the table and say "Can we work this out between you..I love you and Don't want to Lose YOU." I mean why is she the one that has to be the one to put things back together? Maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move.
Outcast Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 I always do hope that she'll call me up and make some kind of move to put things back together. Oh please no! :eek: Johan, you had three years of her issues! She's not going to change without serious major long-term help. The 'stuff' she has is deep-seated. It's not like she just picked up a couple bad habits that could easily be shed. Did you make your list yet? You need a list and you need it stat!!!
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