hella_stellar Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 Hey all. I am interested in starting an open discussion here. I am also wondering if other people have had similar experiences. Let's take a walk back to a time in my life when innocence was lost.... Met my first gf at 17 years old. We were together 3 years, she was my first everything. A lot of good memories a few bad at the end. Overall a good experience. I had to break it off with her. I loved her but she was way too controlling. I broke her heart. Enter 2nd girlfriend a few months later. I really liked this girl. I practically worshipped the ground she walked on. Took me over a year to even get down with her. But I respected that. We dated for 4 years (college years). She graduated college and we were an item for about 3 months. I was in love with her. I don't think she felt the same for me because I bought her some jewelry and she wore it for a few days and gave it back. Then she married a 26 year old business owner. Who in my opinion was not very attractive but who knows. about a year passes, then this girl at work starts coming onto me bigtime. Enter 3rd girlfriend. Found out she was married, told her to stay away until she was divorced but she made it so hard to say no. I gave in and blah blah... I did sincerely like her but caught her cheating with ex....bye bye Met my 4th girlfriend in a college class... we lasted about a year. We lived together etc... I liked her also but her immature ways led to our demise. She kissed me good bye one day - left and never came back. It seems she found herself another man who happens to be a major druggie. (Her 16 year old brother told me my ex's new bf offered to sell him extasy). About 2 to three years have paseed since then and I am not trying to brag at all (in fact it kind of worries me, lol) but I have dated at least 15 to 20 women in that time. I have many strange encounters with women since then. There's too many to list but I will point out a few. I met a young lady from yahoo personals, we went out on three dates. She called me on the way home from the first date to tell me what a good time she had. Third date, I go to her place for movies. Girl falls asleep in my arms... I eventually wake her up and suggest she should go to her bed. She offers me to stay. I wanted to but I figured she was just going to sleep anyway.. and i was still awake so I kissed her goodbye and left nicely. Three days later I get a text message "sorry I haven't called you but I have met someone and am going to make it exclusive". Keep in mind this girl is 33. Most recently, bump into a girl i knew from my very first girlfriend. She hugs me and is all smiling.... I was with other friends so I got her number. Called her about a week later - never called me back. So I go to work to see her one night (she works in a high class bar, and she told me to come and see her when i got her #). We chatted, she bought me a drink. I hugged her and she left. She called me about a week later, invited to come come hang with some mutual friends at a bar.... and I did. We chatted a bit, talked to friends. Some of her friends left and she was going to leave right after them but I asked her to stay so I could buy her a drink. She stayed but I swear it took her 2 minutes to slurp her whole cranberry and vodka down. While we were chatting, asked her if she was single and she was like "i am seeing someone but it's not serious". I paused, didn't say much and then she rambled on about how basically this guy she was with was just to pass time for her until she gets out of college. And the she says "things change...call me". Then hugged me goodbye and left. It's been a week...... Somewhere in those twenty girls was one who was living with her parents and no job and "her son is going to harvard". Then there was a girl who seduced me then totally dissed me a week later.... I just feel like I have been out there a lot and I should have foind someting worht having by now. I'm 28 and I would like to have one person to be serious with. I am farly successful and I am in the best physical condition of my life. On top of this, I hear about so many couples having trouble, I see girls cheat, guys cheating. I see woman giving me the "look" as soon as their boyfriend gets up to walk somewhere... I see beatiful women with guys who look like a back road.... but they drive up in his Hummer. It seems like nothing real exists anymore. One of my goals in life is to find happiness with another and it's frustrating that I have not been able to achieve in with over 10 years of effort. I have never had trouble meeting women but there always seems to be some strange quality or motive about them anymore. And the games... is it just me or do a lot of women approach a new guy in the most indirect way as possible? Looking back on it all I can honestly say I was a good guy to all my partners. if you asked any of my true ex girlfriends about me, they would say the same. Thanks for reading my chronicles of dating. Hopefully it will help some other love striken fool. Maybe it will start an open and honest debate among
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