RottenGazebo Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 My friend Kristen's grandfather is sick, and is most likely going to die. I cried and prayed for her, and want to personally console her...but how? I called and asked her if she was OK, and she said she was trying not to think about it. So what should I do to comfort her?
lilmoma1973 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Just let her know that if she needs anything she always has a shoulder to lean on !! Thats all i can say be there in her time of need only if she asks !! Don't be pushy some people deal with things different... Is she just a friend or you wanting more?
Author RottenGazebo Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 Just let her know that if she needs anything she always has a shoulder to lean on !! Thats all i can say be there in her time of need only if she asks !! Don't be pushy some people deal with things different... Is she just a friend or you wanting more? I want to be more than friends, and have told her that, but she said she doesn't like me in that way.
quankanne Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 as trite as this sounds, it's really the little things that count,especially since her world has gone upside down with her grampy's illness. If she's open to a casual lunch or visit to the coffee bar, take her. If she wants to cry but not alone, let her. If she needs to talk about her feelings or her memories of her grandfather, let her. My best friend did this (really, she saved my life by helping me keep things in perspective) two years ago when my mom was dying, and it made such a huge difference. Heck, even a small, thoughtful gift (flowers, a figurine, a stuffed animal, an inspirational picture) helps ease the heart when it most needs it, just be very careful to make those gestures as a friend, not a potential love interest.
lilmoma1973 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 I want to be more than friends, and have told her that, but she said she doesn't like me in that way. Then let her deal with her pain on her own and she will come to you when she needs you !! Make her know you will be there and she might see what a really good guy you are and her feelings might change !! Don't make yourself too available girls want what they can't have get my drift!!! Good luck
lilmoma1973 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 as trite as this sounds, it's really the little things that count,especially since her world has gone upside down with her grampy's illness. If she's open to a casual lunch or visit to the coffee bar, take her. If she wants to cry but not alone, let her. If she needs to talk about her feelings or her memories of her grandfather, let her. My best friend did this (really, she saved my life by helping me keep things in perspective) two years ago when my mom was dying, and it made such a huge difference. Heck, even a small, thoughtful gift (flowers, a figurine, a stuffed animal, an inspirational picture) helps ease the heart when it most needs it, just be very careful to make those gestures as a friend, not a potential love interest. Totally agree with quank the little things mean alot too!!
Author RottenGazebo Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 Really? It's really possible that her feelings can change about me?
Author RottenGazebo Posted December 10, 2005 Author Posted December 10, 2005 Really? It's really possible that her feelings can change about me?So I can get her a gift, and she'll like me more?
Author RottenGazebo Posted December 12, 2005 Author Posted December 12, 2005 What should I get her? So far I got her a Carrie Underwood CD.
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