RSAM Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 We are now going though legal seperation, My x has rented a townhouse for her and the kids to move into just after x-mass 2005. I will remain in the house until it sells. We have had no relationship for 3 years, we sleep in seperate room, and see very little of each other. This seperation started when my x said that she no longer loved me, we try to get help, but in her own word " I don't want to". So after 3 years I gave up, and the love and trust is gone. I myself still have a lot of love to offer, just not to her. I have started a new job and there is a co-worker that I would like to ask out. As you can guess I have alot of concerns. I what to be fair, honest and open to her and myself. This is a time of major change in my life, but at the same time I don't what to miss out on something that may be good for the both us. Looking for honest input. RSAM
Fun2BMe Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 If it's been 3 years already that things have not been right and you've been living in separate bedrooms with your wife, you might as wait 3 more weeks until your wife and children move out and you are living apart before you ask your co-worker on a date. That way when you explain your situation, it will be easier for her to accept it instead of having to tell her you still live with your wife and children even if it is for a few more weeks. It wouldn't sit well with me and maybe with other women too.
Author RSAM Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 Thank for your support and your right it is done. The co-worker in well aware of everything that is going on, but still agree with you,
Fun2BMe Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 That's great you have been upfront with her about your situation. You can tell her that you're interested in asking her out but that it might be more respectful towards her were you to wait until the family moved out and see how she reacts. She might say she doesn't have a problem dating now and will respect you for the option. If I was asked out first and during the date it was dropped on me that by the way my wife and kids are still living at home, then that would upset me and I'd have a problem with it but you seem to be on the same page and having her in your life now might make the transition easier.
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