basscatcher Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 I found this paragraph very interesting to read today: http://www.possibilityliving.org/feature/detoxify_relationships.html Dr. Robert A. Schuller: In order to define a toxic relationship, you also have to look at a non-toxic relationship. A non-toxic relationship is the opposite of a toxic relationship. So we have healthy and unhealthy relationships. That’s basically what we’re talking about regarding a toxic relationship, it’s an unhealthy relationship. So, what are healthy relationships and then everything that isn’t healthy is unhealthy. A healthy relationship is something that makes you a better person. For example, there was a movie a while back starring Jack Nicholson where he has a compulsive disorder. The movie opens with him washing his hands with a bar of soap and then throwing the bar of soap away. He walks down the street and he walks sideways and jumping all over to avoid touching anybody or stepping on any cracks in the street. He finally arrives at a restaurant where he has all of his meals and he kicks people out of a booth – he’s just nasty! A waitress comes along and she puts up with him and they build a relationship. There comes a point in the movie where she can’t stand him anymore because he’s mean and he never says anything nice about anyone. All of a sudden he says: “OK, I’ll say something nice to you.” He looks at her and says: “You make me a better person.” Her mouth falls open and she says: “I think that’s the nicest thing that anyone has ever said about me.” So, a positive relationship is one where that person makes you a better person. There are relationships that are just the opposite. If a relationship is making you a worse person, that is an unhealthy relationship. You need to develop, maintain and equip yourself with relationships that make you a better person. You need to distance yourself from relationships that do not make you a better person. You will grow spiritually, emotionally, and in all areas of life if you can surround yourself with people who will make you a better person. With that in mind you can take a look at the relationships you have and start realizing and calculating and deciding which relationships you wish to cultivate and mature and which relationships you want to start moving away from I tend to do this from time to time and elimate of distance myself from people who toxic in my life and are ruining my quality of life
EnigmaXOXO Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 "I'm not anti-social, I'm just not user friendly." John and I are getting the tee-shirts. You want one??
Author basscatcher Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 "I'm not anti-social, I'm just not user friendly." John and I are getting the tee-shirts. You want one?? Good one. Sounds like a statement waiting to be read!!!
alphamale Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 I tend to do this from time to time and elimate of distance myself from people who toxic in my life and are ruining my quality of life what does a person do when they themselves are toxic??? how exactly do they run away from themselves? I mean short of a lobotomy...
Outcast Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Bad pada! Not supposed to post long quotes like that! However, quoting the really good bit is ok LOL If a relationship is making you a worse person, that is an unhealthy relationship. You need to develop, maintain and equip yourself with relationships that make you a better person. You need to distance yourself from relationships that do not make you a better person. You will grow spiritually, emotionally, and in all areas of life if you can surround yourself with people who will make you a better person. With that in mind you can take a look at the relationships you have and start realizing and calculating and deciding which relationships you wish to cultivate and mature and which relationships you want to start moving away from
Author basscatcher Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 Bad pada! Not supposed to post long quotes like that! However, quoting the really good bit is ok LOL The whole thing was good. How could I shorten it up.. ??
Author basscatcher Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 what does a person do when they themselves are toxic??? how exactly do they run away from themselves? I mean short of a lobotomy... GET HELP.... Seek a therapist fast before you pull the trigger.
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