TheGameSucks Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Hello Everyone! I am new to this site and I stumbled across it through Google. I think I might need some help here cause I have never encountered a situation like this before. So here is my story. I met this girl about 2 months ago and we have been hanging out for about 2 months now and everything seemed to be going well. It was last Saturday I saw her true colors. I invited her out with a group of friends of mine to go have a night out on the town. She came and left her car at my friends house and we all went down together in my car. During the night she got really drunk. So we left the club and I told her not to worry and that I will get her and her car home safely. On our way home she received a phone call from this guy and he kept yelling at her and telling her that he wanted to pick her up from my friends house when we get back. I could not believe she agreed to let him pick her up after I told her that I would take care of her. When we got back to my friends house I took her outside and asked her who this guy was. She told me he was just a friend, but he was in love with her. I asked her if she felt the same way towards him and she told me she was not. She kept telling me that I was such a great guy and how she didn't want to stop talking to me. So the guy came and picked her up and they left. The next morning she called me to ask me if her car was still at my friends house, I said yes. Then all I hear in the background is this guy swearing at me. Then this is the shocker, she told me never to call her again and then she hung up. The following day after I came home from work I get a phone call, it was her. She told me that she was forced by this guy to call me and tell me to never call her again. Then I asked her again, who is this guy? She again told me that he was just a friend and it was really complicated. I told her what is so complicated and she should never let anyone tell her what to do, she should be her own person. She then gave me an example of one of the things he did. She told me that he bribes her. I told her who’s fault is that? She told me that this guy told her that if she stopped talking to guys on MSN or dating services that he would buy her a car. She then said it would be smart for me not to call her but she said she will still eventually call me. That was the end of our conversation. The mood at the end was we were both unhappy that it had to end like this. So now I am left here wondering what to do, this has got to be the most painful situation I have ever been in. Fully knowing that I have no control over what happens next. I don't know what to do. Can anyone offer some advise?
Outcast Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Run far away. This lady's got issues that you don't need in your life.
seachange Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 ^^^ Totally agree. What a crappy way to treat somebody. I'm sure you can do a lot better. Also, I suspect the other guy's her ex and they decided to remain "friends" only not really. Messy!
a4a Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 what they said..... and do not feel sorry for her or try to fix it.... you cannot keep saving a person from a burning building if they keep running back into it for their own thrills. a4a
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 She has issues and it seems she does like you but due to the circumstances in her life - ALOT OF HIGH DRAMA - She isn't able to end it with this guy cleanly and get out of the situation. You have to be very careful right now. She does want to know you but this guy, her boyfriend (she has downplayed their situation to keep you interested. Not in a mean/malcious way though) doesn't want her to have you in her life. I wouldn't stick around and find out though. You tell her if she ends it with him then for her to call you and then see how things go. Right now if you continue any sort of friendship with her you will be hurt more and more.
Author TheGameSucks Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 You all are so right! That’s what i figure. I know that she likes me but I don't want to put myself in a dangerous situation for sure.
Author TheGameSucks Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 You know what is funny about this situation. This girl seems like there is so much she is hiding from me as well. She said it is complicated with this guy, but fully didn't want to get into it. If she calls me back cause I will not call her I am going to be very interested in what she says. But I am not going to pursue anything else. She has a lot of personal issues with this guy and I don't think I want to be around when everything hits the fan for her.
Author TheGameSucks Posted December 8, 2005 Author Posted December 8, 2005 Wow, since yesterday I can't get her off my mind. I guess I really do miss her a lot. I will not cave and call, I will just let the pain reside and I guess it will slowly get better. The one thing I have learned is never to go into anything with expectations, it will burn you in the end. I just have to get through the initial pain.
RecordProducer Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 She told me that this guy told her that if she stopped talking to guys on MSN or dating services that he would buy her a car. She is full of shyt!
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