Justme888 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 I am trying to be optimistic and mature at 22 and rational about my situation right now and that is getting me nowhere. I will try to make this short and not too confusing, but if a girl or even a guy has any advice (truthful advice) than please I do need it. Well a little over 2 years ago I was working as a banquet server at a wedding when I met one of the guests that his sister-in-law told me that he was interested in me. So I met and well didnt think too much of him, but I took my chances on him and well now I am kicking myself for it. I was actually checking a different guy out at the same wedding. LOL!! So a couple nights later we went out on a date and ever since than he absolutely takes my breathe away whenever I see him. I just feel like he has me on this string and he just plays with me like a little toy and well I guess I let him, but any chance he wants to see me I jump at it for obvious reasons. This little relationship didn't last too long before he decided that he wanted to move to California a few months later for about a year. I was so attached to him and when I gave him a letter I had written him he cried so whatever I let him go and God was that hard, but what was I supposed to do? So somehow to make a long story short I have dated and have had a very serious relationship (that I just ended) since I had first met him and well my thoughts about him havent changed a bit. He never seemed to be bothered by the fact that I was in relationships before and that always bothered me. So thats my first point. Now that he has been back and lives about an hour away I just saw him for the first time a month ago and we have been seeing eachother since. Well when it is convenient for him even though he says that isnt what it is at all. He tells me he is interested in pursuing things with me and he acts and talks like I mean something to him. The way he just kisses my hand for instance when we are in public or the fact that he wants me to be around his family just shows me that he does like me. Is he afraid of a commitment? Is he just good at manipulating me? I dont get it. I offer to go see him after he says I should than he changes his mind. I just dont get it. He goes out of his way to see me on the weekends. But we really only do see eachother like once a week. He asks me what I am doing for New Years and things like that. Stuff that you would want to do with someone you care about. So what is the problem? He is really bad at communicating and I dont know if he just tells me what I want to hear??? I have told him that I have no interest in getting into a full-fledged relationship and that there really needs not to be so many strings attached, but to be honest with me and to maybe reach out to me. I dont get what is going on here and it is driving me crazy and not to mention again that I am absolutly crazy about him. I wont let him know that though Thanks:love:
hotrod12345 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Love is wonderful, its worth it! If you like his family and they are respectable imsure he wouldnt just bring anybody around them. keep in touch with his mother by possibly making a friendship and just go with it! good luck
Author Justme888 Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 Thanks for the advice. I would like to try to get to know his family better of course. He always tells me to stay over his brothers house and wake up with the family in the morning with his neice and nephews so I know that I am not just some girl he brings around but he is just so uncommunicative and confusing. But I havent gotten him out of my mind for 2 years now. Just hope he feels the same!
Author Justme888 Posted December 8, 2005 Author Posted December 8, 2005 Does anyone have advice.....People keep viewing the thread, but none responds!!
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