she's a partier...and i don't know what to think about it

[Matt88]

hello, my name is matt and i am 17 years old and currently a junior in high school. i met this girl a while back who is the same age as me and we have been in touch for a while. i wouldnt really call it a good friendship so far just because we dont get the chance to talk a whole lot but i feel like there is something there. i know this girl has an interest in me but i dont know how deep it is, and im having trouble understanding how i feel about her as well. i assumed everything was going in the right direction, but this past saturday night we went bowling with a group of friends, including her 15 year old sister, and everything changed. it wasnt the bowling that made things different, it was what she did afterward. i went home around midnight but she went to another guys house until 3 30 and she brought her little sister with her. when she got there she got high and drunk, and if that wasnt enough she drove home like this with her little sister in the car. ever since i found this out i have asked around and ive heard that she is a "hardcore partier" and tends to get high and drunk pretty much every weekend. a lot of the people she does this with are the typical high school bullies, potheads and alcoholics.

 

i am torn on how i should feel about this. i would be lying if i said ive never been drunk, which doesnt seem to be much of an issue to me, but getting high like she does crosses the line in my mind. if that isnt enough shes so wreckless while doing this that she will get into a car with her little sister and drive home at 4 in the morning.

 

even though i get very upset when i think about this girl now i still cant get her out of my head. could i be subconciously thinking this girl could be an outlet for me to do things ive never had the drive to do like smoking? i disagree with the entire idea but there have been many times when ive thought about trying it. do i really want to get involved with this girl? i asked 2 of my closest friends about it and one said i should just try to see her partying first hand to see how bad it really is and the other told me to just let this one go. which opinion is true?

 

can you help me at all??

[Neptune]

I would just continue to stay updated on her. Not a good sign for someone 17 to be like she is. But it is not unusual. The drinking and drugs still is irresponsible and I certainly would not participate in that with her.

 

She is in the process of becoming the person she will be so it cannot be said where she will be a few months from now.

[NYCmitch25]

Duud,

 

I don't know if I can help you or not but this is my 2 cents!

 

Can't stop thinking about a gurl? Man, I think we can all relate to that one, it's called having a sex drive! To be quite honest, she seemingly has some issues which are causing her to act out in this way. I don't think she's your type and moreover I'm surprised that she even has interest in a nice guy like yourself to begin with. I think she is bent on a destructive behavioural bindge and is more than willing to drag you down with her. Maybe I'm speaking from a "biased" point of view because I've seen girls like this and I'm fitting your picture into my frame, but regardless of that, she obviously doesn't share your same values. I don't think I would try to get romantically involved with this girl (a little making out, maybe LOL) .... In other words, you're a young guy, toss that smelly fish back and try reeling in a better one!!!

 

"You can DO IT!" - water boy

[meltwithme]

First of all you need to decide what you want.

My advice:

If you only want to bang her then try to.

If you want a relationship with her, stay away, you will get hurt very badly.

This type of girl that has the label of a 'partier', but thoose of us who've seen/been with this kind of girl know the real label is 'player'. Don't get played, go for it if you want to get in her but keep her out of your heart.