deathangel Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Hi Girls, I have a very close friend whi I have always secretly liked more than just a friend. We have been seeing a lot of each other recently, going out for dinner, drinks etc (just the two of us). Last week, we went out for dinner then I took her on the Manchester eye (similar to the london eye). We reached the top, and I had her in my arms and just wanted to tell her how I felt but for some reason it didnt come out. Later that night she took me to meet with her friends at a club where she hardly spoke to me (she just spent all her time with her friend from work). By the end of the night, I got home and couldn;t believe that I missed my chance to tell her. However, I tried to redeem the situation two days later by sending her a message telling her that I liked her more than just a friend and that she didnt have to say or do anything, its just that I needed to tell her. She replied two days later, saying that its just that our friendship was so great and she didnt want to ruin it, followed by I'm really sorry. Since then, I haven't replied but plan on calling her on the weekend to meet for a drink to make sure that things dont become awkward between us and its the last thing i want and Im sure she wants too. Just keep regreting not telling her then as it may have been different and I guess there is no way things could ever happen between us. I guess everythuing just happens for a reason. Is this the right thing to do now?
westernxer Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 I've seen you post from time to time, and you keep asking for female input. Keep it up and you'll end up becoming a female yourself. Be a lion and stop worrying about sensitivity. You're killing yourself. You killed it with this chick already. No more friendships, got it?
Neptune Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 What I think happened is that after you were holding her and then she was distant later she was not comfortable going beyond the friend zone. That is why she was distant. She percieved you romantically pursuing her and upon reflection that`s not the direction she sees it going. It does seem you are in the friend zone.
kitkat826 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Last week, we went out for dinner then I took her on the Manchester eye (similar to the london eye). We reached the top, and I had her in my arms and just wanted to tell her how I felt but for some reason it didnt come out. See, this is what I don't get. I don't let any guy just hold me. If you have your arms around me for more than a quick goodbye or hello hug, then it's ON (and I only hug guy friends that I'm really close with). I don't know why girls give mixed signals like this. It really sickens me.
kitkat826 Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Last week, we went out for dinner then I took her on the Manchester eye (similar to the london eye). We reached the top, and I had her in my arms and just wanted to tell her how I felt but for some reason it didnt come out. See, this is what I don't get. I don't let any guy just hold me. If you have your arms around me for more than a quick goodbye or hello hug, then it's ON (and I only hug guy friends that I'm really close with). I don't know why girls give mixed signals like this. It really sickens me.
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 dont focus on could-have, should-have, hard but even though that first moment may have been better, she doesnt want to ruin your friendship and doesnt see you that way... she may now feel a bit weird by you two, which will only go away if you dont act any differently towards her now and just think that's that and give it time to fade. if you like her as a friend, dont mention it anymore and see if youre BOTH willing to take it from there
country gal Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 See, this is what I don't get. I don't let any guy just hold me. If you have your arms around me for more than a quick goodbye or hello hug, then it's ON (and I only hug guy friends that I'm really close with). I don't know why girls give mixed signals like this. It really sickens me. I hear ya kitkat!! Its BS! Sounds to me like this chick has been using him for an ego boost. I'm sure she knew beforehand that he was interested. Forget her DA.
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