justsomeguy Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Ok, so the best thing I can do is give a girl my number if I want to start something? Don't swap screennames or something that would seem less pressuring? I have the last class with her Wednesday so I can't talk more in class after that. I'd rather not get caught up with an online transition though. I just don't want to be too overbearing by giving her my number and also I'm sure the other students will hear when I give it to her. Which could be akward for both of us. She is an undeclared freshman and I'm a senior that went through the same thing. I could give her a lot of advice so that would be a good way to flow into the reason of giving her my contact. But that is just for public, I think she will know I'm interested in her. Or maybe I shouldn't confuse things and just say that it was nice talking to you and I'd like to talk some more sometime. What do you think?
BonneChatte Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Dude, you should just give her your number and say "if you ever need any advice or just want to chat, gimma a call." That keeps it general...no pressure on either end. Don't bother with email address or screennames. If she's really interested, she'll call. You could also ask for her number, just say "You seem pretty cool and I won't be around next year...would you like to exchange numbers to keep in touch." Either way take a chance. Who cares what everyone else says...you won't be there anyway, right? Besides "fortune favors the bold..."
Apathygrip Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 ohh god outside of class..wait for her at the door and be like...could you talk for a sec?
Author justsomeguy Posted December 6, 2005 Author Posted December 6, 2005 You could also ask for her number, just say "You seem pretty cool and I won't be around next year...would you like to exchange numbers to keep in touch." So is it better to give her mine or suggest we exchange numbers? Yes, I would suggest we exchange numbers normally, but I wasn't sure if I should since we didn't talk a lot during the semester. Giving her mine sounds like the easier thing to do, suggesting we exchange is much more bold, but could go wrong. Any idea what tends to work more often? If she doesn't give me hers I already know what to do, I tell her thats ok and I give her mine. I want to show her that I really believe I have a good chance. I would hate to wait for a call and never get one because I didn't show her that I'm a good choice. I mean do I expect her to go 100% on the way I look, I don't for girls, I know I would make up my mind depending partly on the way a girl approached me showing what she thinks of herself.
runner Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 and you waited till your last class to make a move ?? ... okay, well, just chat her up a bit (not pickup) so she knows you exist. friendly smile and eye contact before you walk away. find out whatever fun public place she might be hangin out regularly (not necessarily from her). reappear, then make your approach. at least then you'll have something to talk about together. 'hey we were in so and so class together..bla bla bla' and to your question: no. she will throw it in the 'sorta desperate wierdo pile'
Author justsomeguy Posted December 6, 2005 Author Posted December 6, 2005 I think I gave you the wrong idea. I didn't talk to her a lot but she is very aware of me. She sits right next to me in a class of only like fifteen people. And for some reason I didn't think of her like that until near the end.
loony Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 I would ask her if she would like to hang out with you some time now that school is over and you won't see her so anymore. I think you need to do something a bit more straightforward otherwise you will look like a real wussy (you don't appear to have a lot of self-confidence). Offering her your phone number? - No. Asking for an exchange of phone numbers? - That's the friend approach. Asking for her phone number? - That makes it clear from the beginning that you want more than friendship. I usually said it would be ok to give a girl your phone number, because if she was interested she would call back, but recently I wonder if this is really a good idea. I think I'd prefer an exchange of phone numbers as it means less pressure. The reason why I'm not really much into dating are all these expectations.
Cecelius Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 I agree with Loony -- most people take a man asking a woman for her phone number as an indication of manly interest. If you are too un-pushy, then you will get put into the friendzone because you will have failed to grab her interest.
Author justsomeguy Posted December 6, 2005 Author Posted December 6, 2005 Actually there is still another semester before I graduate, school ends in summer not winter, and I might get a job in the area too. How about I say something like... I didn't get to know you much but you seem pretty cool and I'd like to do something sometime, what's your number? Pull out my phone and put it in and press send. What do you think about that?
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