curiousnycgirl Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Ok not even sure where to post this - or how to even say it, but here it goes. I LOVE any reason to buy a present. I LOVE knowing I found something that the person will want/enjoy or that will make them happy. My b/f knows this about me and even calls me the worlds best gift giver. So here's the problem. My b/f has been unemployed for 10 months. His financial situation is getting a bit desperate. I totally understand this and certainly don't expect anything for the holiday - although my family, who already have issues with him, will have a problem with it - but he's not their b/f. Anyway without even thinking I've begin doing my happy thing, thoroughly enjoying buying him various things that I'm fairly certain he will love. All of a sudden it hit me - will this make him feel uncomfortable? That is truly the last thing I want - but if I don't buy him stuff won't he feel even worse? I truly don't know how he will respond to this. He is a very strong, proud, independent guy - but doesn't seem at all put off by my strength, success or willingness to share my cash for both of our enjoyment - but I certainly don't want to make him feel badly. Would appreciate anyone's thoughts on this. I guess I can always just sit on these gifts til a better time - but would appreciate insights.
Giselle Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 It sounds like you've already bought the gifts, but perhaps you could consider giving him something that both of you could enjoy--like tickets to a concert or movie passes or something along those lines. That way he might not feel as bad about not being able to give you something in return. Just an idea.
Author curiousnycgirl Posted December 6, 2005 Author Posted December 6, 2005 It's a great idea - but I've been doing that for the entire past 10 months! We've been on a trip to Toronto, a trip to see his family in Wisconsin. We've seen Wicked, the Rolling Stones, Bruce Springsteen, Elton John and been to several charity parties - all since he's been out of work. He hasn't had any issue with these things - he's been quite gracious - not sure why I'm getting wiggy over X-mas, I guess it's because he feels such pressure to buy me something perfect (which he won't be able to do unless I tell him what to buy - which I won't do).
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