Neato. My ex invited me and my BF to go see his performance this weekend....

[Tangerina]

That was kind of nice... last time my ex and I talked it was about a month ago (story: he broke up with me 6 months ago, I wanted to get back together, but eventually I moved on and realized I was happier and started seeing someone great and then the ex wanted to get back together and I said no and he was really hurt) and it didn't go well... it was the first time that he had cried to me about what happened between us... and I basically had to say, "look, I have moved on and I am happy, I know you will be ok and I want you to be ok, but it isn't my responsibility anymore..." and then I decided not to call him or talk to him unless he called me... bit more background was that time we talked before that he told me to kick my BF in the balls, and last time we talked he was mean to me about moving on so quickly (implying that I was lonely and doing it just to be mean) Well, last night I was hanging out and my Ex called and invited me to this year's production of The Nutcracker that his ballet company is putting on... I went last year while we were dating but obviously wasn't thinking of going this year, but he called to invite me and even said "oh, and you can bring the other one if he wants to come" meaning my BF.... and then we just had a nice normal chat about what we have been doing... that made me feel really good and let go of a bit of the anger I had at him for trying to make me to continue to feel hurt after I got over the situation... I think he is really moving on and it is really nice to know that we can be civil with each other if need be... I don't think I am going to go since I am really busy and he is only in one scene (the Russian) but I think I really will go when he has his own show next year.....

[AriaIncognito]

If he's still calling your boyfriend "the other one" then he clearly isn't that into the idea of your being with him. I'd be wary of this invite and not go. Seems like maybe he just wishes to woo you back into his life through his talents. I can't imagine any other reason to not say "you can bring your boyfriend". I know that in situations where i'd still wanted the guy and was talking to him about his woman, I'd rarely address her normally, because I didn't want her with him.

 

Just my 2 cents.

 

Jennifer

[Tangerina]

I think you are super right, which is why I am not going because it would just be an awkward situation all around, but it was nice that he is at least making an effort to be what he percieves to be friendly... I think he is still uncomfortable with me being with someone else (hence, as you said, the name game) but is trying to make the best of the situation and show that he can be civil after lashing out at me in his hurt a few times...

 

hmmm, yeah... I think you hit the nail on the head... when my ex told me I could "invite the other one" I said "You mean Devon?" because he had never said his name before and I wanted him to aknowledge that I am with a real person for real reasons rather than just some idea he has about some thing I am doing that hurts him....

[meltwithme]

Nothing good would happen by going, all you would do is piss off your current boyfriend, believe me he wants no part of that.

[Black]

Not to be immature by any means, but come on the Nutcracker

[Tangerina]

Haha, pretty much all ballet companies put on The Nutcracker at X-mas for whore-ish reasons, since it is the only ballet most people know about a lot of people go to see it so the companies make a lot of their money over the holidays....

 

Actually, my BF was kind of interested in going... he has pretty good attitudes about exes and is very secure in the fact that I am with him now and doesn't really have any problem with me having a friendly relationship with my ex... I don't think a full out friendship is the best thing yet or maybe ever, but it is nice that my BF is ok with me seeing and talking to him because my ex and I pretty much have all of our friends in common (we were high school sweeties) and it is inevitable that I will end up in the same room with him at some point.....

[meltwithme]

 

Actually, my BF was kind of interested in going...

If he actually wants to go it's not because he wants to see the nutcracker. I would be 'interested' too if I were him. Particularly after reading this

I wanted to get back together

If you don't believe me tell him your going to go alone and see how he reacts.

[Tangerina]

Haha, it's not like that at all... I wanted to get back together as in when he broke up with me I didn't want to break up, but then I got over it and he is the one who wanted to get back and I said no no no because I am so much happier without him... plus the BF and ex have already met and it was pretty chill, for the most part... oh well, it is hard to sum up complex stuff like this in funny little posts.... I am just happy that he is being civil now and moving on, inviting me and my BF to the show was a token gesture showing me that he is working on moving on....