MrAugust Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 I found out through my wife's email account that she has been in contact with an ex. In September she went down to visit her family and I know that he visited her and her group of friends, because she told me. See, she has told me all along that they were in contact, because they were close friends before they were lovers - years ago before I met her. But when I saw the content of the emails it raised red flags. Basically he has been telling her that, even though he is now married with a son, that he still thinks about her and how wonderful their relationship was, etc. My wife doesn't exactly reciprocate, but she doesn't stop him from writing/speaking like this either. To try to reduce the length of this story, in a nutshell she said that there was one alone moment, when she was down there in Sept., where he asked her to kiss him but she declined. I don't know if she is telling the truth or not. She lied by not telling me that he was making romantic and sexually suggestive emails, and she lied originally and told me that they hadn't seen each other when she visited her family in September. I can't tell if she's lying about this too, although in tears she says she didn't physically cheat on me. Here's where I need some help. After going crazy and even hinting at a polygraph test (perhaps I went a bit off the deep end there), I decided to try this : I'm going to have her send an email to him glowing about the wonderful kiss that they shared and wondering if he still thinks about it. Based on his response (either confusion or confirmation) I should be able to tell whether or not there was a kiss (or more, for that matter). How do I word such an email so that I'll be able to find out what I need to know ? Any other ideas ? Thanks. And yes, I realize it's pretty pathetic to be doubting her to the point of playing these games, but if you saw the emails I saw you'd be very concerned and possibly desperate.
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