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That`s exactly it. Hmmmmm... NMMNG ring any bells?

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Will you ever ignore those red flags again? Learn. Set boundaries. If someone crosses them, swift kick to the curb.

 

That's the biggest thing right there. If you don't learn to set boundaries and have repercussions for crossing them, you will never be respected. Putting your foot down when a SO crosses the boundary builds respect. Respect is preceded by love. Without respect there can be no love. And let it be known those who do not respect can not love you and they are the ones who can easily walk away from you without second thought and leave you a broken person.

 

Boundaries are one of the most important cogs in a relationship. It's part of the foundation of love and respect. If you allow someone to mistreat you, then you are basically saying "I am worth nothing."

 

Also, it sure helps to be somewhat hard to get. We definitely do not appreciate what can be easily had. That's also part of boundaries. You need to have your own life and your SO should compliment your life, not 'be' your life. When you make someone else the center of your attention it puts them on a pedestel they are uncomfortable with. Most people's self-worth is not that high and it scares the daylights out of them to have someone feel that way about them.

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Agree with everything CaliGuy. Boundaries are important in every aspect of life. They are, like you said, the foundation for respect.

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That`s exactly it. Hmmmmm... NMMNG ring any bells?

 

Here is to becoming an IM!

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Here is to becoming an IM!

 

Hehehe. We`re both on the way brother! It`s a long way, but we`re walking the path.

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