seachange Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Had a dream about my ex this morning. I was lying in bed, and suddenly I felt him all around me, as though he were spooning me. It was bizarrely vivid - I think we were taking a midday nap, because the afternoon sun was slanting into my room, and it was warm, as though I was back in the south (we split up when I moved up north for work--among other reasons). I could feel the denim in his jeans, and the hair on his arms, and his breath on my neck. So real. We started fooling around...finished fooling around... Then the scene changed and we were in a crowded area, like a mall or a museum...lots of people, and we were laughing and walking around, and I headed to the bathroom, carrying his stuff for some reason (his bag, some other stuff), and when I came out he wasn't waiting for me. I looked everywhere, ran all over the museum/mall/thingy with all his stuff in my arms but couldn't find him anywhere. I guess my subconscious is kind of trite. But trite or not...I still cried when I woke up. When do these things stop??? It's been more than three months and I'm still as hung up on him as ever.
slubberdegullion Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 When do these things stop??? It's been more than three months and I'm still as hung up on him as ever. I have had dreams recently about a high-school girlfriend, and I graduated when T.Rex was still roaming about, tearing up the wildlife and frightening the pterodactyls. Besides, dreams are meaningless. They're just little electrical and chemical impulses in the brain that we put together to make some sense of them. They mean nothing, nada, zero, zilch, zip.
Author seachange Posted December 5, 2005 Author Posted December 5, 2005 I have had dreams recently about a high-school girlfriend, and I graduated when T.Rex was still roaming about, tearing up the wildlife and frightening the pterodactyls. Was King Kong there too? Besides, dreams are meaningless. They're just little electrical and chemical impulses in the brain that we put together to make some sense of them. They mean nothing, nada, zero, zilch, zip. Yeah, I know, I know...sniff...I just wish my subconscious would give it a rest already... And - be glad I only recounted the bits that made any narrative sense. Isn't it fun when people tell their prophetic/profound/loopy dreams where the scenery and the cast keep changing but they have to tell you every little detail? ...so then I was in the mall and I was covered in mud and then I was clean and we were in a garden and there were people around but they all looked the same but they were all wearing the face of my dead father only he's really alive and then I became president only not really, you know how it is in dreams...
In Sync Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 I had a dream once about a week ago regarding the ex, I woke up in the mid of night. It really rattled me, because I never had one of him before. As someone explain here, it was something unresolved about him and maybe that's the reason he was in it. (In it I saw him taking another women's number which got me all upset as though it had actually happened...I got all jealous and irritable again.) But, three days ago I also had a dream about my mom, she recently passed away over a month ago. I've never dreamed of her either, but this time in it she was going away on a trip (and she was not one in to have enjoyed travelling at all in her life, but in this dream..she was happy to be going away and I didn't want her to go. I finally buckeled down in it and said to her "Then let me give you a kiss on your cheek." I woke up and that was all I could remember. But that dream felt so real too.
slubberdegullion Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Was King Kong there too? No, but there was this one gym teacher who seemed to have the grumpy side of Kong's personality.
Author seachange Posted December 5, 2005 Author Posted December 5, 2005 But, three days ago I also had a dream about my mom, she recently passed away over a month ago. I've never dreamed of her either, but this time in it she was going away on a trip (and she was not one in to have enjoyed travelling at all in her life, but in this dream..she was happy to be going away and I didn't want her to go. I finally buckeled down in it and said to her "Then let me give you a kiss on your cheek." I woke up and that was all I could remember. But that dream felt so real too. That's really beautiful, In Sync. I can still feel the denim under my fingertips.
lilmoma1973 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 I haven't had a dream about my ex since we broke up!! All my man dreams involves my h !!
Author seachange Posted December 5, 2005 Author Posted December 5, 2005 Hmmm, lilmoma...it may be a bit too early to brainstorm topics for the Friday hot thread, but I hope WWIU is paying attention...
slubberdegullion Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 I haven't had a dream about my ex since we broke up!! All my man dreams involves my h !! That's funny... I often get dreams about lilmoma...
lilmoma1973 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 That's funny... I often get dreams about lilmoma...
wanda1974 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Had a dream about my ex this morning. I was lying in bed, and suddenly I felt him all around me, as though he were spooning me. It was bizarrely vivid - I think we were taking a midday nap, because the afternoon sun was slanting into my room, and it was warm, as though I was back in the south (we split up when I moved up north for work--among other reasons). I could feel the denim in his jeans, and the hair on his arms, and his breath on my neck. So real. We started fooling around...finished fooling around... Then the scene changed and we were in a crowded area, like a mall or a museum...lots of people, and we were laughing and walking around, and I headed to the bathroom, carrying his stuff for some reason (his bag, some other stuff), and when I came out he wasn't waiting for me. I looked everywhere, ran all over the museum/mall/thingy with all his stuff in my arms but couldn't find him anywhere. I guess my subconscious is kind of trite. But trite or not...I still cried when I woke up. When do these things stop??? It's been more than three months and I'm still as hung up on him as ever. It's only been three months....I have been divorced from my ex for 2 years now, and still have dreams about him constantly. The other day, I had a dream about me delivering twins (from him). Only thing is, we are both white, but I delivered Indian twins....how bizzarre is that???? I think we have these dream because we still miss them. However, I have no intentions of having Indian twins.....
Author seachange Posted December 5, 2005 Author Posted December 5, 2005 how bizzarre is that???? Okay, that is wicked bizarre.
Frustrated_in_LA Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 The subconscious is powerful, even if trite. A few nights after I broke up with my GF, I had a horrible nightmare in which an old boyfriend from college was chasing me with a gun telling me I deserved to be killed. The f**d up thing is that I was awake enough to have stopped the nightmare but instead I let it go on, I broke into a full sweat and my heart was pounding and I thought, I really do deserve this- I've fallen for jerks like him all my life and I finally have someone beautiful through and through and I let her go. Finally, he did catch me- I was trapped with no where to go- and then, nothing happened. The dream just faded away wth no ending. I guess even in my dream, I knew I'd survive. You will too seachange.
SMHappyface Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Wierd dreams come and go - they won't last forever. Last night I dreamed about my ex for the first time in weeks - he was hunting me like a deer and I had to hide in the woods and my sister was with me. He did find me and I started crying. He told me if I didn't stop crying he would use less bullets so the pain would last longer before I died. Talk about terrifying!
Author seachange Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 Geez, SM, just reading that gave me a chill.
SMHappyface Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Ahhh, but my dreams are getting better... I mean two nights ago I dreamed I met up with this really hot guy, but all we did was kiss. But then a week before that I dreamed that I saw my ex and was trying to talk to him and he shoved me off a cliff. Why am I constantly dreaming he is out to kill me?!
johan Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 I have good luck interpreting dreams when I consider only the emotions I'm having in them, not the unreal events. If you think about it, the emotions are the only thing about dreams that are real. The terror or anger you're feeling in the dream is the real thing. Sometimes I think that this is how you're mind lets off steam, by creating images that make you feel some way. The images are actually not relevant. You may be able to connect the emotions to something that is going on in your life. I'd say that's what you're dreaming about. So just because the ex shows up in the dream to scare the hell out of you, doesn't mean it has anything to do with him. He's just the delivery image. You should maybe focus on the fear, not the ex. That fear may be something you're feeling at work or something. That's my theory anyway.
Lishy Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 That's funny... I often get dreams about lilmoma... You 2 timing rat!
Delicaterose00 Posted December 29, 2005 Posted December 29, 2005 Dreams can be powerful. After my ex and I broke up I had dreams of him every single night, talk about stressful and sadening., at first they were dreams of me begging him to come back to me, in some he did, in some he didnt.... then I had dreams where he was asking me back, telling me he missed me and stuff, but as much as I cried every day and wanted him and still was so in love wtih him, whenever he grabbed me to hug me or kiss me, I held back, I didnt run to him, I didnt hug him back, and when i did cry, I cried in the dream because I was not going to take him back cause I coudlnt trust him... I believe my dreams were proof of my success in getting over him... Sure I still love him after umm 7 months, even though he cheated, we cant just turn the love bug off, especially when we think we found the love of our life. Here and there I dream of him now, but they are nothing dreams.. just me seeing him somewhere or what not.... dont worry you will feel better.. you will.
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