sunsetsmiler Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for about 2 years now, we had a massive split in January and i actually posted about it on here, but i can remember my user name! He cheated on me with another girl and then dumped me to be with her, it was really long and dragged out, i wouldnt let go of him. Eventually i managed to get over it while i was abroad in the summer. But when i got home i found he had emailed me and we got talking and basically that spark was still there, i fell for him again, only for him to tell me that him and this other girl had split up but now he wanted to get back with her. I was devestated. It might also be important to mention somewhere in this post that i suffered for depression for 3 years, i changed antidepressants just before i went away in the summer, then while i was away it just dispeared. Its gone now but i do suffer from SAD (seasonal affective disorder). Anyway, me and my boyfriend sorted things out, turns out this other girl had got back with her ex after they split up and had been with him 2 weeks before telling my boyfriend. I was skeptical at first, with everyone telling me he only wanted me back so he wasnt alone or to get back at this other girl. But we worked through it and we got back together. Its now been a month. On saturday night i went out for my work do. Theres a guy at work that i'v liked for quite a while but hes well of bounds, i have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend and his ex girlfriend is one of my good friends, i realised i liked him after i set them up together. Saturday night we were extremely drunk and spent the night completely liplocked. I dont know how he feels about me or wether he regrets it, but i know that i dont. And i've realised what i've been denying for about a week now, that i don't want to be with my boyfriend, it pains me to say that because i really care about and there are feelings there, just not enough. I can't carry on like this, but i'd rather be with him and unhappy than hurt him, im not breaking up with him in hope that i'll get with this other guy, thats not gonna happen. But its made me see that i dont get excited enough about my boyfriend anymore. Is there anyway i can break up with him without hurting him? Or even get him to break up with me?
omegaRED Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Hehe... Just break up with him, honestly, truthfully. Don`t make him break up with you. Just give him a clean break up. I hate games and half truths, just be mature and do it like a grown up.
meltwithme Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Well if I was your boyfriend I would want you to just lay it on me with something like this "Hey I'm so sorry to do this to you but I have to breakup with you, I just don't have the same feelings for you and I met someone else." No matter what you say he is going to be hurt, men appreciate honesty so don't try to get him to break up with you or some other sneaky $hit because that will really f.uck with his mind.
omegaRED Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Agreed. No games, no kindness, don`t talk to him about second chances, don`t try to spare his feelings. Clear, direct, concise. Believe me, he`ll have alot more respect for you that way.
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