Sandyshine Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 We dated 6 months. I'm pretty busy so we only got intimate on 12 occasions. The sex was good. I'm more outgoing and commited to my large family and my child. A few other differences too. I ended it because we liked each other, but not in love. He agreed and handled it well. He offered that he would be open to just sex anytime I wanted. I laughed in his face. Now it's been 2months and no sex (not to mention just lying in strong arms) I'm selective about who I sleep with. It's hard to build a relationship with anyone because I'm busy working the hours and tending to a very sick relative. His offer is starting to have an appeal. What would you do?
Walk Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 From a moral, ethical stand point... I'd say don't. The potential to either be hurt, or hurt him is pretty high. Also, he may have a gf now, and would you want to know that? And he may have slept with several other women since you broke it off, and could be carrying an STD without knowing it. Having said that. If it's something you feel you need in your life right now, and are willing to accept responsibility for any pain or hardship you may cause by doing this, then I say go for it. But use protection. Otherwise your putting yourself at too high a risk. I dont' see anything wrong with it. Depends on how you would feel the next morning. It'd be awkward and weird. And it wouldn't be like it was. And if you did become emotionally attached to him again... you broke it off for a reason. It's not going to change just because you have sex with him. There are a lot of potential problems with having "just" sex with him. STD's, jealously, emotional involvement, feelings of being a "slut". These all depend on your maturity level, and beliefs. If you feel your capable of handling these problems, and its something you honestly believe you need in your life, then enjoy. But if you have even a small amount of doubt, then save yourself some heart ache and confusion and buy a vibrator.
Author Sandyshine Posted December 10, 2005 Author Posted December 10, 2005 Well put Walk. The pitfalls are too much.
slubberdegullion Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Well, at the risk of sounding like a "typical guy," I'd say go for it. Sex is not always about deep meaning, spiritual connection and all the rest. There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying the erotic comfort of a companion without the rest of the emotional baggage. It's been made pretty clear that there really isn't any future with him, and I wouldn't suggest leaping into the sack with him if either of you are otherwise spoken for, but for right now... why not?
JS17 Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 I'm toying with the same question, an ex is chasing me for sex and I don't know what to do. I think the decision is really person specific. It seems like you are able to have sex without any emotion attached to it and if that's the case then I don't see why not. Just make sure he feels the same way.
Brittanyjean06 Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 well you guys weren't in love so i dont see the big deal? but it still could be damaging ex's who meet up and have sex with eachother, i think thats bad....your not helping your self get over that person at all. the point of breaking up, is to not go back to eachother to move on heal, and possilby meet someone new!( to have sex with) but its up to people to make their own decisions, and sometimes the urge to have sex with your ex is hard,especially when you know you can.
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