scruffles2121 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Just left the guy I'd been with for 8 months. We lived together 6 of them, and were happy, or so I thought. He recently started spending more time with his friends, and I made it clear that I just wanted a little bit of attention. I know he loved me, but I didn't want him to change for me, so I decided to call it quits, instead of staying and nagging him all the time. I really thought he would be the man I would devote myself to for life, and have children together. What bothers me is that I asked him a few weeks ago if he wanted me to leave and he said no. But he continued to sort of blow me off. So hence, I decided to leave. The last conversation was me telling him that I would be moving out. He knows that I love him very much, and that I am an unselfish person and would never ask anyone to change for me. It hurts that he hasn't said a word, or anything since then. He avoided the house like the plague, giving me no opportunities. He works where I work, in another building, and from what I heard he is acting like none of this bothers him. I left him a very sweet letter the day I left, since I didn't have the option of telling him face to face that I left out of love for him. I just decided he wasn't ready for what he had on his plate at the time. Is this normal guy behavior to ignore the girl?? I guess deep down I was hoping that me taking the bold move to leave would indicate whether he wanted to make an effort in our relationship, and a part of me wanted him to beg me to stay. My bad, now I am feeling so awful that I am being totally ignored. I know I am setting him free, and if it was meant to be it will come back. But dang, it hurts soo bad. Any advice?
travellingman Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Is this normal guy behavior to ignore the girl?? Yes. We get bored easily in relationships. Sounds like you might be under 30, and at that age, guys often get the feeling that they're missing out on whatever fun their friends are having. I got married before most of my friends, and feeling ball-and-chained was a big problem when I was in my 20s. You did the right thing, and his behavior is a reflection on him, not you. Don't let it impact what you think of yourself, not even for a day. Only thing I'd say is to remember that we really need our space.
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