Guest11111111 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Hi everyone My girlfriend is very controlling in a sense of way. Whenever I'm having some kind of problems I go to her and talk to her. The thing is that then she'll give me advice and she basically expects me to follow them. Sometimes her advice is good of course and I follow, other times her advice really isn't so good, or it doesn't exactly fit into my kind of problems. Sometimes I tell her that I can't do things the way she suggests because of a number of reasons. Then I try to explain to her more in detail about the problem, but by the time I try to do this she's already become so annoyed that she'll just tell me to do what she says I should and that I should stop giving lame reasons. This in turn leads to me saying ok and doing whatever I feel is the best way. Sometimes this means taking her advice, other times it means doing things differently than what she suggests. Whenever she realizes that I'm not following her advice or that I'm not doing what she says instantly she'll get angry with me and tell me that she just doesn't care about helping me anymore. Then I have to spend the whole evening trying to make her be less angry and eventually I'll give in and say ok ok I'll just do whatever you say, just to get her off my back. Then I just decide to not talk about it anymore and just say thanks, the problem isn't a problem anymore. This isn't so nice really because it leads to me being reluctant to go to my girlfriend and talk about personal stuff such as family problems, or opening up to her about my thoughts and feelings, because I know the big mess that will happen if I don't do what she tells me to do. How do I get her to understand that I appreciate her advice, but she can't expect her advice to be perfect every time and she can't expect me to follow every single thing she tells me to do every time either?
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