Enigma Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 I'm together with a girl three years younger then me. We've been together for two months now. We see each other atleast every other day since she lives only about twohundred meters away so it feels like alot longer. We have it really really nice together and I really love this girl, and she feels the same way about me. Her parents don't mind me being 19 and likes me. Everything is perfect except for one thing. Sex. First of all. She's 16 and I'm 19. This made me kind of hesitant on the whole sexissue (Age of consent in Sweden is 15) Being a virgin myself I thought I'd take it real slow and wait. Then I found out that she is way more sexually experienced then me, and she wants us to have sex, as soon as possible. I told her I'm a virgin and she accepts it. Telling me it's my choice when we do it, but she really wants too since she thinks it's a normal thing for a couple to do. Ofcourse it is. So why am I posting here? Well. I am.. really. really inexperienced with relationships. Having low selfesteem have ruined every chance of a relationship ive had until very lately. This is the first relationship ive had in my life. (not counting preteen things). I honestly don't know what to do. Do I have sex with her? I mean, I'm ready for sex, I feel mature enough. But is it right? I also don't want sex to change things for the worse.. We have something good and I don't want sex to ruin it. And since I have nothing to compare to I cant tell if it will or not. That's why I'm also wondering. Does sex change things for the worse? or better?
Outcast Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Sex is intoxicating. Once you've had it, you want it LOTS and the rest of the relationship can suffer as a result. It is my opinion that sex should stay out of the picture until you know each otehr fairly well and have established a relationship based on companionship, trust, respect, love - you know, all that stuff. IMHO sex should be the icing on the cake rather than the cake pan.
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