reader Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 I have seen threads about older men, younger women, I'd like your opinion on the opposite scenerio.
Woggle Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 I am in a relationship like that now and it is the best relationship I ahve ever ahd. I could not be happier. Maybe women my age just weren't mature enough for me. I don't know.
Neptune Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Older person, younger person relationships will work as good as any other as long as two people really are right for one another. But, the real challange is probably going to happen some time after the age of 50. Here I am going to assume a 15 year difference in the realtionship. Not so unusual for a woman to be 15 years older than the man. But turn that around and it better be a real solid realtionship for a 50 year old man to be with a 65 year old woman. So, the conclusion is that it will work until the glow of youth really fades. This will likely happen in the early sixties if a person has taken care of themselves. What is it like to be a 50 year old man? Well, I don`t know one that does not have an eye for the young gals. Nature is sort of cruel that way.
TUDOR Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 I have seen threads about older men, younger women, I'd like your opinion on the opposite scenerio. The fact you posted this in the OW/MM forum tells me there is more to the story than just an age gap? Care to elaborate on why you're posing this question?
ZGT1503 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Tudor, I was wondering the same thing! But back to the original question, I'm a 31 yr old woman (still feel like saying "girl"!) going out with a 22 yr old guy. And reading Neptune's post has just scared me!! No seriously, it's a great relationship where we have had problems, sure, but none of the problems are related to the age gap. I look pretty young for my age and he looks older than 22, so at the moment it's not that obvious to other people and we don't receive any negative comments. But sure, I have doubts about how it will work in the future. Not to mention the fact that he's too young to want to settle down at the moment, or think about family etc, and I am coming up to that stage... However, I'm very much of the opinion that if 2 people are right for each other at that time, there's no need to cause problems that are not there just because of what's accepted or expected. As with any relationship, it depends on the individuals involved!
Neptune Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Sorry for the confusion in paragraph 3 of my previous post. I meant to write: It is not so unusual for a woman to be 15 years younger than the man. It was too late to edit the post by time I saw the mistake:p
Author reader Posted December 5, 2005 Author Posted December 5, 2005 Aha! So, you wonder what's up?! Actually, not much. I am not an expert at starting threads, perhaps I should have put this in relationships... Anyway, the reason I asked is a combination of things. First, it's the whole Ashton/Demi thing, and the comparisons that has brought to light. It's also that now that I have started my career, I'm getting noticed...by significantly younger men. I don't look, act or think my age, as far as staying on top of current trends, etc., and I love what I do - I am always happy and have fun at my job. It just got me thinking. It's a strange place to be in. My kids are growing up, I am beginning a career, I feel good, work out, am happy, kind of like starting the second half of my life. I just see a real change in attitudes about this - and you confirmed that. It must just be a confidence thing.
ZGT1503 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Well... good for you! Enjoy it and go for it - why not live this second half of your life to the full?! I hope it's true to say that attitudes are really changing to this issue. Of course there will always be people who say it won't work (my parents for example!), but no one knows unless they are the individuals involved. As with any relationship. Have fun!!
newbby Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 so you are not dating a mm? i agree, have fun, it all sounds great, you are just creating a problem
beachrosie Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Aha! So, you wonder what's up?! Actually, not much. I am not an expert at starting threads, perhaps I should have put this in relationships... Anyway, the reason I asked is a combination of things. First, it's the whole Ashton/Demi thing, and the comparisons that has brought to light. It's also that now that I have started my career, I'm getting noticed...by significantly younger men. I don't look, act or think my age, as far as staying on top of current trends, etc., and I love what I do - I am always happy and have fun at my job. It just got me thinking. It's a strange place to be in. My kids are growing up, I am beginning a career, I feel good, work out, am happy, kind of like starting the second half of my life. I just see a real change in attitudes about this - and you confirmed that. It must just be a confidence thing. Well, if you ask me...it is ideal, and actually more natural than the other. The love of my life was 9 years younger, and I really think we would still be together if I was still able or had the desire to have children several years ago. I still love him and we are still close, as in friends, and I guess part of the reason why I am still single. He really was a hard act to follow, well, and still is. Actually I've only loved two...him and the MM that I am trying to no longer see. Perhaps this subject in this part of the message board, also tells me something about myself.... hmmmmm
goingforgold Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 I dont think it matters at all who is younger or who is older, as long as you're madly in love with each other thats all that matters. I dont agree with Neptune's comments>>>If some is with you JUST for the way you look then it isnt really love, with age beauty fades for all of us when we're older no matter whether we're M/F Growing old with someone u love is just that, not someone expecting you to look some certian way, i think thats immature, relationships based soley on looks never last - its whats on the inside that counts - took me a long time to realise that. We all wrinkle and get old - its being with someone in your olders years that can make you laugh and hold your hand through the tough times and tell you they still love you more than anything in the world is whats important. Age is just a number - it doesnt say anything about the person
Author reader Posted December 6, 2005 Author Posted December 6, 2005 I'd like more feedback on this... This has nothing to do with a guy. This has everything to do with coming full circle in life, and feeling a sense of accomplishment with what I have been trying to do, the good the bad and the ugly. I was curious, however, since maybe this newfound sense of accomplishment shows...and I've made the observation that younger men notice, as well as older men. No problems started here. That's the beauty of wisdom. I can only tell you that life is getting better!
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