ChrisTheMan Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Hi everyone. Nice to meet you all. This is my first post on this forum. I'm not exactly what you would call 'good' on this whole dating thing. So...I have a scenario here that perplexes me as to whether or not I should pursue a dating relationship with her. Any advice you all have to offer would be great. At my college, there is this one girl that I am just absolutely enchanted with. For the past 4-5 weeks I've been doing my best to flirt with her. Well, some interesting things have happened recently, and I am not quite sure how to read these signals she is giving me. 1) She is generally around me more: sitting next to me at class and eating lunch with me. 2) I went to dinner with her once...but some of my other friends were present. 3) She tells me she has a boyfriend (without me even asking her about it)...then tells me that she is planning to break up with him a week or two later. 4) She calls me up after she breaks up with him, and asks me to make her smile. Then she invites me over for dinner and a movie. 5) She then cancels the dinner/movie invitation 14 hours after she initially asked me...saying that other people who were going cancelled. 6) Other people keep saying (from their observations) that I "have a chance." Ok, that is what has happened so far. Here is some additional information that may help you guys give me your decision. I am generally a funny guy, so she laughs at ALOT of my jokes. If there is no seat open around me, she doesn't even sit in the same row. Oh, and we're planning another day to go get some dinner. Does this sound more like a 'friend' kinda thing...or should I try and ask her out and make it an official date. Are these obvious signals...or am I making a big deal about nothing? Any help at all would be greatly appreaciated.
Apathygrip Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 shes jocking bro! spend some more "single" time with her....see if it's really worth it.
Sandyshine Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Did you get sexy with your flirting? If it was all comedy she may put you in the funny buddy catagory.
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 you could have a chance, but the way you typed it (i dont know the situation as well as you)... 1) She is generally around me more: sitting next to me at class and eating lunch with me. 2) I went to dinner with her once...but some of my other friends were present. cool. doesnt necessarily mean she likes you "in that way" but cool 3) She tells me she has a boyfriend (without me even asking her about it)...then tells me that she is planning to break up with him a week or two later. ummm. mixed at best. typically when they drop that, they're saying hey i know youre flirting with me but you shouldnt (but keep going). annoying! then the breakup thing? um. are you on standby? eh. 4) She calls me up after she breaks up with him, and asks me to make her smile. Then she invites me over for dinner and a movie. wants immediate gratification. 5) She then cancels the dinner/movie invitation 14 hours after she initially asked me...saying that other people who were going cancelled. felt weird because at that point in a way, it would be using you instead of "dealing" 6) Other people keep saying (from their observations) that I "have a chance." "a chance?" again. mixed at best. if youre going to go out on a dinner date, enjoy! get a feel for where she's at and try to not be too assertive. still flirt, do what you do, make her laugh, just remember you dont want to be the rebound guy.
katiebour Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Hi Chris- She just broke up with her boyfriend? Seems a bit soon to go chasing her, and if she responds it might be the affection/attention that she likes, and not neccessarily you. I'd be there for her as a friend, and give her a few months to heal up and decide what she wants. Most folks don't think too clearly right after a breakup. I gotta go with dawn on this one- you don't want to be the rebound man. Step carefully.
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