JadeStar Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 thats ridiculous JADE....i remember in '93 when i got married my now ex-wife had a problem with my pics of ex girlfirends. we had been married maybe a month and one day i came home from work and she had spend the afternoon watch Oprah, eating bon-bons and going thru my picture albums ripping up all the pics of me with women. She even drew mustaches on some of the girls in the pics! WTF! The marriage started out on a bad foot and just got worse. Even tho I like RP i have to say that she needs to chill out about this. One cannot erase their past and destroying someones personal proptery is illegal, even if its your spouse! First of all alpha I agreed with the fact she may have over reacted. I DID NOT say that he needed too take the pics down. I say looks like he would have. To each their own, and just because she did doesn't mean he has too, I said that as well. I never said no one can erase the past. I DID say people can hve images, or memeories from their past in their mind, doesn't mean they have to have pics a reminder. If they do thats fine I'm not knocking that. I was simply stating that looked like he might would have gotten rid of them. I didn't say he HAD TOO. Jade
JadeStar Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Thank you all very much for your rplies, I realized I shouldn't be jealous. As I already stated: We worked things out and now everything is great. No more jealousy on my side! I saw the pictues and they were innocent. Case closed. We are in love and very happy so I would like to close this thread. Good to hear RP!
alphamale Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Why you need pics of old flames when you chose who you want to be ? Makes the person feel very insecure!! Just my 2 cents!! when one decides to marry it does not mean their past is erased like a chalk-board. People should be allowed to keep their paraphenalia and momentoes in a box or a safe or somewhere else where they are not on public display.
a4a Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 when one decides to marry it does not mean their past is erased like a chalk-board. People should be allowed to keep their paraphenalia and momentoes in a box or a safe or somewhere else where they are not on public display. I concur Alpha..... of course if they are hiding such things and reviewing them secretly or often it may point to a serious problem. I myself am a cleaner..... I do not hold onto mementos of ex's. Just no desire to hold onto the past...... too much going on now and plans for the future. a4a- have you hugged your chia pet today?
lilmoma1973 Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 Thank you all very much for your rplies, I realized I shouldn't be jealous. As I already stated: We worked things out and now everything is great. No more jealousy on my side! I saw the pictues and they were innocent. Case closed. We are in love and very happy so I would like to close this thread. So glad things are better and it is good that he opened up to ya and let you see the pics!!!
alphamale Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 I concur Alpha..... of course if they are hiding such things and reviewing them secretly or often it may point to a serious problem. a person's current partner needs to understand that everyone has a past and that "past" is what made them the person they are today. I have pics of ex girlfriends and keep them in a safe place and looks at them maybe twice per year and think about old times and who I f***ed long ago and sometime i spank the monkey....so what? what we decide to keep private is our business. and like someone said above, you cannot get into someone head and erase their memories
hotgurl Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 I actually agree with Alpha. a person has a past and has a right to keep mementos and pictures from that past as long as they don't throw it in thier partners face. As for spanking the monkey I have masterbated to memories of some hot sex i have had in the past but I would never ever tell my current partner. I think on some level we know our partners all think about thier exs and past sexcapades and we just don't want to admit it or be aware of it. The only time it becomes a prolbem it when it goes from occasional thought to still carring a touch for a person
Grinning Maniac Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 We all have pasts but the fact remains you get rid of pictures of old flames when you marry!! Wrong. That is not a "fact". That is a personal decision; one that varies from person to person. No one is *obligated* to get rid of such momentos if they do not wish to. Why you need pics of old flames when you chose who you want to be? Makes the person feel very insecure!! Just my 2 cents!! It's not a matter of "needing" to keep them. It's simply that some people wish to do so. Also, as I said before...never be so foolish in a relationship (marriage or otherwise) as to consider yourself completely inseparable from your partner's life. It's a nice fantasy, but tearing up all of your man's personal belongings that do not exist within the microcosm of "your special relationship" would turn out to be a real ****ty thing to do if 7 years from that point, you two are in divorce court. You would be just the same as all the other girls in the shoebox, except he'd be giving you money. Bottom line: Neither you, nor any other woman has the right to destroy personal momentos of their partner's life before they happened to wander into it. Like it or not, it was still *their* life. So you don't get the luxury of being able to play "revisionist historian". Your man had other girlfriends before you. Get over it. Seeing (or more likely, digging through closets until you find) reminders of those things does not *make* a person insecure. They were already insecure from the get go, and seeing (looting) such pictures triggered a reaction. If a person was totally secure with their relationship, I doubt they'd give a damn.
OldEurope Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 "Spank the Monkey"???? "Masterbated" (bad spelling hers)????? Is this what we've come to? Where are the editors? Who is "Alpha Male" and if he is such a tough guy, why does he have 7000 posts on this site--nothing else to do, no girlfriend I take it? Why oh why must every public forum eventually slide down the tubes in bad taste. Aren't their editors here? Thank God I live in Florence
ReluctantRomeo Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Aren't their editors here? Apparently not. Unless you really meant the unlikely sentence using "their"... Thank God I live in Florence Does that mean you're just being uffizious?
OldEurope Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Apparently not. Unless you really meant the unlikely sentence using "their"... Does that mean you're just being uffizious? Ahhhh--haa! You got me there! When I am being Church Lady on this site, I don't even clean up after my own spelling. But so nice to see some humor on this site every once in a while, Romeo! (Oh, Romeo...)
westernxer Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 Thank God I live in Florence Lucky bastard!
ReluctantRomeo Posted December 6, 2005 Posted December 6, 2005 But so nice to see some humor on this site every once in a while, Romeo! (Oh, Romeo...) Thanks Florence is great though. Good for you!
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