porsche_2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 I met this guy over the internet and visited him couple of time. We met first time and he liked me. After talking over the phone for almost 3 months every single day and emailing alomost 15-20 times everyday at work..we decided to meet up again 3 weeks ago. It was all good. He seemed emotional about me and we were close. He dropped to the airport and assured that he will be coming to my town to see me in december. When I got back to Toronto, dunno what happened, he started distancing himself. Stopped retruning my calls and apologized when i complained. His last email was on friday last week and then thru the weekend i called me several times, he didnt return my calls. And then i get his last email on sunday saying that he is ok and wants some time alone..sorry... and thats it .. i havent heard anything back. I left him alone. I am very hurt and dunno what to do. it's been a week and I still think about him. Yesterday was my b'day and i was hoping he will email me. But I guess he has already moved on. I don't understand why he did that. I will never get any answers. I hoped he will atleast email me and give me a reason or call me. I am not mad at him. I wish him the best but it will hurt for ever I think. I have never cared/liked or loved anyone like that. So I know it will never every happen again. I will never feel the same again. What should I do? Should I ask him why he did that? Should I email him one last time asking him for reasons? We were so close/emotional and all of a sudden he dopped this bomb on me. We didnt even fight.... And just to clarify things..he wasnt looking for a casual relationship..he wanted a long term relationship leading to marriage..we met thru a matrimonial website...so thats why it is hard to understand that why would a person just all of a sudden one day just walk away from you "without giving a reason"...I know it was long distance but then he knew it could work..I was very compromising in this relationship..and he acknowledged that I have a good heart and would not want to hurt me...but then what happened?? Can someone please help me understand? He has had no serious realationships or been close to a girl physically and mentally for almost 7 years...was he scared? overwhlemed? can I do anything?.. i'm very lonely ..i have no family here... can someone please answer to me?
CoolAunt Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Porsche, let him go and don't blame yourself. He may have not felt chemistry in person but wanted to get laid just the same so didn't say so. He may be married (a good 30% of men who belong to dating clubs are). He may fancy himself an Internet playa. Whatever it is, it's out of your hands now and nothing short of amnesia, jail or death is a good reason for not calling as he'd promised. Btw, how old are you? How old did he claim to be?
Author porsche_2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Author Posted December 3, 2005 Thanks for replying to me. I am 26 years old and he is 28. No he is not married. I am sure of that. You had mentionted that he probably felt that there is no chemistry. But then, I felt that he was enjoying his time with me. I felt chemistry was there though it could have been better with time and more meetings. When I came back I started calling him and he felt that we should have some distance. I think that he felt that I was taking his freedom away, though I wasn't. All I wanted was good communication so we can keep it alive since this was a long distance relationship. I have so many questions. I wish he can email and tell me what happened.
Author porsche_2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 OK..so what does it mean by ..i want "some" time alone?????????..does it mean he will contact me in the future or should i totally give up and move on....i want answers and i am frustrated that he didnt give me any clarification.. please can men answer to me? what does some time alone mean? and why did he say sorry???? sorry for what? for dumping me? or for leaving me alone for a while? or for everything .?????????????
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