scobro Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 This question really isn't as dumb as it seems.I have asked it before and got some answers.I just read a thread and the person say "i wouldnt pursue anything other than just dating".So my question is what is dating is it just going out with a stranger for the heck of it or is it trying to find a mate.I have had 3 long term relationships that all started out as 1st dates but I never have gone from girl to girl date to date.I have been on maybe 5 dates in my life and Im 34 3 ended up in living common law for years and one marriage.So when you "date " is it just for company at that moment? or are you trying to find a relationship Sorry I don't get this dating thing please explain this to me.
Fun2BMe Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Dating is to go out with someone with whom you have a romantic interest in. This could be to just get laid or it can lead to a relationship depending on how the date goes. If someone wants to only date someone, they want to keep it on a going out socially level with romance/hooking up but not for it to lead to anything more. The difference between going out like with friends or family, compared to dating is that dating implies that it is open to lead to romance and is not platonic. If my male so far platonic friend one day says to me "do you want to go on a date with me" I will understand he now has romantic intentions towards me verses if he were to just say "do you want to go out tonight".
CoolAunt Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Some people date for fun. Others date to find a mate/relationship. I'm 41 and single with a sizeable list of long term relationships behind (long term by today's standards, anyway). IMO, I haven't dated enough. I think we'd all be better off if we dated more and dated just to have fun and get to know others instead of looking at every first date as potentially the beginning of a relationship. IMO, we'd have a larger selection of single men (or women) to choose from and we'd make our selections based on natural compatibilty, instead of trying to force our selections to seem compatible. I haven't dated much for fun, which means that my opinion isn't based on personal experience and I'm in no position to throw it out there as advice. It's just something I've given thought to.
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