chickenleggs Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Its now 6 weeks since my ex decided to leave me and run off with her manager from work (married for 17years with 3 kids!).I still miss her like crazy and i am trying to move on in my live as much as possible.I find weekends the worst as you always think of all the fun things you used to get up to together.I now have images in my head of her and her new fella having so much fun together, whilst i am left on my own. She is always texting me to meet her for a drink as she says she misses me so much and cant imagine her life without me in it (its a bit late now love!). I must admit i did meet her for a drink a couple of weeks ago and got to hear all the details of how her new fella had left his wife and moved in with her.She lives in her mum and dads house and her parents live in France, apparently her mum knows about the arrangement but not her dad as he would go mental. She also says he still sees his wife and kids and his wife does not know about her.It all sounds very strange to me, she can exagerate sometimes.She even said i can pop round hers for a coffee anytime i like. Why if they are living together does she want to go out with me every night? I said is he going to get divorced and she wasnt very sure. I am staying away from her and leaving her to it.I think the new man and her will hit on trouble sooner or later and she will be texting me for a shoulder to cry on. I just wish i did not keep getting it in my head about them both having a fabulous time together it really cuts me up, as i said Its the B****Y weekend again! Someone cheer me up and tell me what a c**p time they are having and how its all going to be a disaster! Dating married men is for mugs isnt it! Cheers all x
RD37 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 I can't imagine your pain and betrayal, but try,as hard as it is, to find something that will make you happy. Take up a sport or a hobby or something. Something where you can break out of your normal life patterns.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 She made her bed, now let her lay in it - she's chosen life without you! Stay away from her - you don't need the reminder/heartache. Focus on you for a while, do things you like to do. Get involved in activies whatever just get out of the house and don't wallow. Sounds trite but it will get better. I'm sorry for you, but sounds like you are better off, hard as that is to believe at the moment.
pippen_2k Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 "She is always texting me to meet her for a drink as she says she misses me so much and cant imagine her life without me in it (its a bit late now love!). " Your joking aint you? Im sorry if this upsets you but what a selfish arragant biatch! I wouldnt want anything to do with her if she ran off with a married man, let alone hook up for a drink. Id rather have a coffee with a friend over her anyday!
oneunsurelady Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 well let me tell you ... my mother jsut went through the same thing her ex left her for his bestfriends wife...it killed her and still does and she has to see them all the time around town and see them walking togather as if they where the best things on earth i really dont get where ppl get there morals from?
Author chickenleggs Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 Thanks for your advice, i have been told the same from all my family and friends.I am staying away and have only seen her once in the last 6 weeks, only because she kept texting me and wouldnt leave me alone. I am not going to see her anymore as i also dont agree with what she is doing. She only seems to think of herself, what about this mans wife and kids they will be devastated by it all when they find out. I have always been there for her and helped her out on many occasions when she has had problems, but not anymore.She texted me the other day and said she was lost without me. As you said she has made her bed with her married man she can lie in it!!
loony Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Someone cheer me up and tell me what a c**p time they are having and how its all going to be a disaster! I will. They certainly will have a crappy time, no doubt about it. If your description of your wife is true, she must be one of the dumbest people walking this earth. Let her stay lost and if she asks for more, tell her to get lost. Kudos for being such a nice and patient guy in your situation. At the same time this worries me a bit, also that you chose to stay with her for so long. How is your self-esteem and did you ever consider therapy or something?
Author chickenleggs Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 cheers loony, you have cheered me up, yes im sure like everything else she does it will all end in tears! I have got low self esteem and have just started to have therapy this week so we will see how it goes. All my friends and family tell me i have changed since i met her, she can be very demanding as her new fella will find out soon enough! Anyone else going to cheer me up today and tell me what an absolute idiot she is for getting involved with a married man and throwing away all the fun we had together. Go on you know you want to!
omegaRED Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Stupid stupid bitch. She`s missing out, and this is/was your chance to grow and be a better person from before. I really doubt they`ll succeed, and seriously, a married woman walks away from a good marriage, with 3 kids, to be with a married man? And he hasn`t even told her he`s gonna divorce his wife? Stoooopid Chickenlegs, this may very well be the best thing that`s happened in your life!!! I`m happy for you!
Author chickenleggs Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 That more like it, keep them coming you lovely people!!
Author chickenleggs Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 Just to clarify the married man is the one who has been married for 17years and has 3 kids, sorry if i confused anyone. I was not married to this girl she was my girlfriend for 2/12 years. But keep the disaster messages coming, i want to know shes going to have the worst time possible:D
loony Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Just to clarify the married man is the one who has been married for 17years and has 3 kids, sorry if i confused anyone. I was not married to this girl she was my girlfriend for 2/12 years. But keep the disaster messages coming, i want to know shes going to have the worst time possible:D Sorry, I did misunderstand your post. I'm not really sure what would be more stupid, leaving a marriage of 17 years and three kids or hooking up with a guy who has been married for 17 years and has three kids. The former would mean running away from responsibility towards supposedly endless bliss, the latter would mean voluntarily entering a really crappy situation with the prospect of little fun. And she still wants to hang out with you? Be sure, she's now starting to smell the crap in her situation. If she was happily in love, she'd not waste a second on you, not even in order to keep you on the backburner for potential future hookups. If she calls you and wants to hang out with you, it means that she is not happy, has no one to talk to and she is so desperate that she will contact the only person of whom she thinks she can rely on - you.
Author chickenleggs Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 Well she is finding out now that she cant depend on me anymore as i am not available for her very need anymore. I think what is happening is she is running around snatching moments with her married man here and there and wants me about for when he cant make it.She lives on her own and i dont believe her that he has moved in with her after 2 weeks of knowing her, she can exagerate alot. She did text me last week to say she had been miserable lately, which cheered me up no end!
AriaIncognito Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 I'm with everyone else. If she would leave you, to go to a married man with kids, then well, she's got the problems, not you. Now you are free to find someone amazing and then she can see you together and get insanely jealous that she gave you up. I mean, it sounds to me like he's way older than her as well, eventually she'll get tired of his being older and not wanting the same thigns outta life that she does, due to age differences. You definitely are doing the right thing. Stay strong :-) Your soulmate could be right around the corner.... Jennifer
Author chickenleggs Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 Thanks Jennifer He is 10 years older than her, i think she is flattered by all the attention he is paying her. He told her he has never felt so much love about someone before, but i am told all married men tell women these things just to get into bed with them. I am feeling betrayed at the moment because after 2 1/2 years together she just ups and goes with no thought for my feelings. I am better off without her and each day it gets a little easyer. I just hope it all goes wrong for her and she trys to get back on my side then i can tell her to stick it!!
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