fleur1 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 hi suppose u met a girl who is willing to do any kind of sacrifice for u a girl who love u for who u r who has to go trough a lot for u even u hurt her feelings she is still with u what will be ur decision ? will u choose to have a nice life or destroy ur life by going parties, get drunk and sleep around when u have someone who think about u do anything for u? will u listen to ur heart and give it a try or follow ur reason and miss one great chance in life? please let me know
Genod422 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 I did meet a girl willing to do all that stuff and that was a great girl with good morals, was a virgin, remained one throughout our relationship, and loved me nonstop and was with me for a year and a half. She dumped me because she was in college ( we dated from the end of her senior year in high school through freshman year in college til about a month ago) and because she wasn't sure if she loved me and wanted to have fun and make friends and blah blah blah. She chose to party and get drunk and although she is a virgin now she is a very easily led person and a weak mind so eventually she will sleep around probably. I treated her like gold and went out of my way for her so much. She had everything and threw it away to "experience life" and "have fun" just like a LOT of other girls. So to answer your question, no I would not throw it all away and would follow my heart and stay with a girl like that, it's just too bad that girl changed into the opposite, broke my heart, and is a pathetic person. It is immaturity that plagues people that decide they don't want to feel tied down, it's stupid, and they all realize in the end they made the wrong choice.
Ms_Sweetness Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 I'm not a guy, but I must say that it depends on the maturity level of the guy you are dealing with. Sure, a normal and mature guy would go for the girl who would do anything for him but if a guy isn't ready to settle down yet and hasn't gotten the "party life" out of his system, then no matter what this good girl does he will not care, he will only come around once he realizes that there is more to life than partying and the like. Trust me I am speaking from experience, I have been there before.
pippen_2k Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Hmmm I dont think Partying ' Destroys' your life lol... You gotta go out and have fun sometimes, so there is no reason why he cant have both.. as long as he dosent sleep around.
AltplanB Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Im your typical guy. Im also going through the same thing except its my ex gf. So let me tell you, if it were me, i would probably try to score some girls and party for a while. Then after none of them pan out, and trust me it takes a lot to find a girl that we really dig, we'll come asking you how your doing. Im saying this because i believe that its what i would do and i am hoping that its what my ex will do. Just remember it takes time. We gotta figure out that you weren't just another fish.
Ms_Sweetness Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Im your typical guy. Im also going through the same thing except its my ex gf. So let me tell you, if it were me, i would probably try to score some girls and party for a while. Then after none of them pan out, and trust me it takes a lot to find a girl that we really dig, we'll come asking you how your doing. Im saying this because i believe that its what i would do and i am hoping that its what my ex will do. Just remember it takes time. We gotta figure out that you weren't just another fish. That's exactly what I was trying to point out.
AltplanB Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 So you believe that they will always come back for at least curiousity? Right now you should be working on making yourself the best you can be cause when he comes callin, you gonna be too hot for him and he'll beg you.
Ms_Sweetness Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Not to be negative or anything but I just want to point out the fact that there is always a possibility that the person you want will not come back and that he/she may actually find someone that they feel is better suited for them. In that case you should get yourself together and move on and never try to push a relationship to work.
AltplanB Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 That is possible. But think about how long it is between serious relationships for most people. If they get into a relationship right after you, its a rebound. If they don't, they will miss you. I believe the best position is to always keep yourself in the back of ther mind. Keep contact with them as a friend or someone that can support. Eventually, when they are really depressed or lonely or whatever, they will probably ask how your doing. Sure its not always gonna happen but really, weigh your options and its the best way to go about it. Strict NC only works if they haven't gotten over you. Over Contact only works if they are weak. Little Contact is like having someone on the back burner. Send them pictures of fun **** your doing and just be there friend. Thats my stance peace im out.
Genod422 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 If you are young and live near the person or have mutual ties with the person or the relationship was truly loving and strong at one point I feel they will always be back. Whether you have moved on by that point or not is another question. Everyone knows my current ex with come back but nobody knows when so yea you can keep them in the back of their mind and give them time and space but at the same time you have to move on like they did. They don't love you, they don't need you, they don't want you...yet. There could come a time but that time is not to be waited around for. My ex is trying to start a couple rebounds right now, quite pathetic, and I know for a fact she will not find a guy better than me but she may lie to herself otherwise. They may never come back for you but you are bound to cross paths and what is meant to be is meant to be.
westernxer Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 hi suppose u met a girl who is willing to do any kind of sacrifice for u a girl who love u for who u r who has to go trough a lot for u even u hurt her feelings she is still with u what will be ur decision ? will u choose to have a nice life or destroy ur life by going parties, get drunk and sleep around when u have someone who think about u do anything for u? will u listen to ur heart and give it a try or follow ur reason and miss one great chance in life? please let me know Can u elaborate on ur situation?
RD37 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 I am guessing you are young by your post. Young guys want to go to parties and sleep around. It is pretty normal. Hell I am 29, and while that wasn't the reason I broke up with my gf -I have to say that once I get over this I will probably be taking it easy myself for a few months.
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