pooh23350 Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 I have had nc with mm for about 10 months now and here latley I have been thinking a lot about him and I am missing him so much.I am with somone else but i love mm still and never stopped since nc.My question is should I contact mm and see what happens?I wanted to write him a letter but I was afraid if I put it in the mail and it got to his po box it would get into the wrong hands which I do not want to happen because I do not want him getting mad at me.I still love mm with everything in me and i want to see him so bad that it is hurting.if anyone has been in a similar situation please give me some advice.
newbby Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 aussie mandy raises the important thing here. i am assuming that he is still married, and all i would advise is to leave it alone. it will be no different than it was the first time around. why put yourself through all that heart ache again? if he really wanted to be with you, he would come and find you after his marriage was well and truly ended. until that happens it is an impossibility and is not worth giving your thought to. do you not love the person you are now with?
Sami_D Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Hello Pooh. On what terms did it end last time with MM? What are you thinking of writing? And what would you like to happen if you contact him? And what do you expect would happen?
Author pooh23350 Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 yes he is still married.but still not happy according to people i have talked to.yes I do love my now partner,but things are kinda on a rocky road there.That is another story.It's a long and difficult story for that one.But anyways!I don't know what I will write.I just want to tell him how I am still feeling about him and everythig.Things ended because things were getting really risky and people were finding out about us.too many people.
opheliaapplegate Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Hi Pooh Oh my gosh i really feel for you ... i am in the same spot.... it is hard to let go when you really love someone and it wasn't your idea to end it.. but since it was ended and he is still married and you are with someone else you have to stop and think.... what am i doing to myself..... from what i read ... you are with someone you are having problems with, why go out and seek more problems... if your MM loves you "enough" he will find you and be just as curious as you are to see how you are doing... wouldn't it be more significant if he looked for you.... i understand what you are thinking... you think that if you contact him in anyway ... put your self back in hhis vision he will want to continue the relationship... but you have to hold your head up with dignity and work on the relationship you are currently in... I am stuggling myself to do the very same thing and all i keep saying is that i am smart enough, strong enough and worthy of being with someone that loves me "enough" .... good luck and if you want to write that letter pour yout heart out but DO NOT mail it just keep it or throw it way .. getting your feelings out is helpful and sometimes will help you get through the rough spots..... take care
newbby Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 i suppose pooh, you couls tell him how you feel, but that you would never be the ow again. put it out there.
Author pooh23350 Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 thanks for all the advice.I still dont know if I am gonna contact him or not.I want to but I know if I do it will probably not help matters any.It will all stand where it is now.if you know what I mean.Thanks all again.
whichwayisup Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Do you really wanna open that door again? It's been so long and he's still married, you're involved with someone else. Is it worth it? Really ask yourself that. Maybe it's just best to keep that door shut and look back at that as your past.
Author pooh23350 Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 thanks for all the advice.I think I have made my mind up now.I am not gonna contact him.Things are good just the way they are now.It would not be a good Idea for me to go back to having a messed up relationship again.I loved the man and there are still feelings there but I can not go back to being the other woman.Never again.thanks all again for all the advice.I appriciated it all.
Babbs Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Do you really wanna open that door again? It's been so long and he's still married, you're involved with someone else. Is it worth it? Really ask yourself that. Maybe it's just best to keep that door shut and look back at that as your past. WWIU is right on. You don't want to go through that door again and start with him. Plus, things wouldn't be the same as before. They never are. He's still MARRIED. You're doing the right thing by moving on.
Sami_D Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 thanks for all the advice.I think I have made my mind up now.I am not gonna contact him.Things are good just the way they are now.It would not be a good Idea for me to go back to having a messed up relationship again.I loved the man and there are still feelings there but I can not go back to being the other woman.Never again.thanks all again for all the advice.I appriciated it all. Pooh, I think you've made completely the right decision. So, how are things going with your current man..? Are you managing to deal with the 'rocky' situation there..?
Author pooh23350 Posted December 17, 2005 Author Posted December 17, 2005 things with the guy I am with now are going ok.The rocky road is getting a lil better.We are trying to work through it.Its just a long story what we are going through.If it is ment to be we will work through it and if not well you all know the out come of that.
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