MIOSBORNE Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 My wife recently admitted to having an "emotional affair" after cell bill revealed several calls between them the past few weeks. I do suspect more happened but have no proof. I began to notice on Friday she is especially irritable or mean along with being antsy on Friday's. Today she claimed that she had to take a free computer class at dept of labor but wanted to pay a babysitter. For financial reasons she was not able to and was very upset. Our bed was recently damaged and I am to buy a new one today. She told me it would have to wait because she needed to pay for the babysitter for this class! Of course I refused and she has been distant the rest of the day. She could not even say whether the class was ongoing or one-time. It seems she would have called and asked before wanting to hire a babysitter. Three weeks ago 8yo son was at home 2 hrs alone because she came home late on a Friday. She claimed she "lost track of time". I of course do not but it as she did not admit to calling this guy until I presented her with the bill and she was busted. She said she wants to decide whether she wants to be married or not and wants a separation. It's tough for me because she is currently unemployed and I have to wait until she is employed for her to move out. Sometimes I hate going home. She refuses to clean or do laundry even though she is home all day. I can't wait until this situation is finished!! I get so pissed at times and feels she is trying to make a fool out of me!! However, we do have a daghter together so that complicates things. Were it not for the love of my daughter I would have kicked her out.
Mz. Pixie Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Of course, her other guy is probably off on Fridays. Also for many people involved in a affair the weekends are especially hard. They know usually all weekend they won't talk to or have contact with the other person, particularly if that other person is married too. Take off next Friday and follow her in a friends car.
brashgal Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 More going on here than just her cheating. Sounds like the two of you are locked in a power struggle, you won't pay for a babysitter, she won't clean house and who knows what else. Have you confronted her about what she does on Fridays? Ask her if she is still having the emotional affair or if it's become physical? Suggested marriage counselling? Details are missing - you should examine why you left them out, get to the underlying cause of why she has gone elsewhere for emotional support.
Author MIOSBORNE Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 I think you are right pixie. I just want to catch her red handed so I can have definite proof and move on. This is a very tough situation to be in. Having someone you care about wanting to be somewhere else but with you while they are living there.
Author MIOSBORNE Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 Sorry, I was heading to lunch brashgal and did not want to write a long story. She claims that my son's behavior, her recently losing her job as the reasons she chose this man for emotional support.About the babysitter, we did not have the funds and quite honestly I feel she wanted a babysitter to spend a couple of hours with this gentleman. We have had a typical up and down marriage. I don't believe either of us have been unfaithful up to this point. We have had many financial problems, but not because of irresponsibility, gambling, etc. She will not admit to being physical or still talking to him. Then again, she did not admit talking to him at all until I saw the cell bill.
Mz. Pixie Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Put a keylogger on the computer to track her to see if she's talking to him. Your son is causing her to turn to another man for comfort??? Now I've heard it all.
JayKay Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 You could hire a private investigator to get your hard proof...
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