Clevelandfan Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Curious to hear about any golddigger experiences any of you have had. To sum mine up, My ex-gf after only a couple months invited me to help her financially in any way I wanted to. She started not going to work and put herself in a financially victimizing position and told me all about it constantly. She was falling behind on her house payment and SUV payment (which she had some other guy co-signed on). So she wanted me to refinance her house with her (after 6 months of being in our relationship). She had already claimed one bankruptcy so I felt apprehensive in getting financially involved with her to that extent until I KNEW I wanted to marry her. Of course, all anong she was wanting to get maried and "work on getting pregnant, cuz we're getting married anyways" according to her. I didn't step up to the plate fast enough so she started cheating and obviousely lying to me about what was giong on. Now she is engaged to this guy after only a few weeks of our breakup. I ended it, but she forced me to with all the crap that was going on between her and her "friend". It was going to happen anyway because the other guy was most certainly pressuring her to move in etc. I'm sure he paid her bills and got her all caught up. The funny thing is that I spoke with a mutual friend at work before Thanks giving and she told me how my ex used to speak so highly of me and was always upbeat and happy, but when she discusses her new guy, she is talking down about him and not real excited about things. She also said that my ex doesn't know what she wants. Interesting. Hmmm,..could in be snowing in paradise? He's living with her now and paying her bills so she has quite a delemma if she is falling out of "love" already,.. What a tangled web we weave, huh. If you'd like to read the full story it is here, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=585871#post585871 What experiences have any of you had and how did you handle it?
Neptune Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 This happened to me several years ago: I used to go to a bar/dancehall one night a week. I met a woman there that I had seen a few years before that had taught dance lessons and when I started a conversation with her we got along pretty good. Pretty much closed the place down chitchatting. Next week, she was there and things went even better. Same thing again. Pretty much closed the place down. Third week, same scenario except one difference. We happened to walk in the same direction outside. So, outside she asked...."where are you parked" and said right there. So, after a couple of times of her seeming a little confused and asking a few times more I said that is my truck right there. Now, that evening I was driving my old beat out piece of a truck because I was getting some work done to my car. So, next week I had totally decided that I was going to close the deal with this gal and when I saw her she gave me a cold stare, would not dance with me and I mean totally blew me off. Cold!!! And it did not change any after that from week to week . She absolutedly would not give me a second glance. Man, I feel lucky to have been driving my ragged out truck that night because it was good to know what kind of woman she really was.
billskrill Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 My ex gf after about 4 months of being together was talking about getting married and getting a house together. She has a child and is on welfare with a shi#ty job and I am financially stable. I told her I cared about her deeply and I did love her but we were moving way to fast. So anyways I almost proposed to her, hell I bought the platinum 1K diamond ring (over $3000) but took it back a couple of days before I went through with it. She told her sister that she was going to start lying to me by telling me she was on birth control when she in reality wouldn't be so "i would have to marry her." I told her it would be a long time before I thought about marriage after friends and family knocked sense into me and oddly enough about 3 weeks later she broke up with me. I gave her a promise ring ($529) which she NEVER gave back to me. I spent God knows how much money on her over our 7 month relationship...I just wish I had it back but to have spent that to have her outta my life forever is definatly worth it. The sad thing is while I was clouded love for her I didn't see any of what's so obvious to everyone else...I'm so glad I now see it.
Author Clevelandfan Posted December 10, 2005 Author Posted December 10, 2005 C'mon,..there has to be more golddigging experiences out there? Please share.
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