sparkles0913 Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Hello everybody, Let me just say I appreciate all of the posts I get from you all, it helps so much to know that people understand what I'm trying to say. Now, there is this guy whom I work with. We don't see eachother often b/c we work on opposite ends of the building, however, I have noticed him in my area lately. Now, this could simply be that he is wandering the building more looking for people to talk to, I know that is a possibility. So he stopped by my desk earlier this week to chat for a bit and we did. Then, today I called him for a few papers that I needed and he was really busy. Well, he called me back a few hours later and apologized for him being rude earlier, when in actuality, I honestly just figured he was busy and I was bothering him. So, he stayed on the phone with me for a good 15 minutes telling me stories about his weekend and his day, etc. So, since I am a 22 year old single gal, I obviously wouldn't have any problems with this...except that he is a bit older than I am. And first and foremost, I am almost NEVER attracted to a man more than three or four years older than me. However, this guy is 31, and with me being 22 I'm wondering if he's genuine at this point in his life or if he's still at that point of just having fun. Or, if these visits and phone calls even mean anything? Anybody have any advice or been in a similar situation?
jhurtinct Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 .I'm wondering if he's genuine at this point in his life or if he's still at that point of just having fun The only way to find this out is to get to know him. I know guys that are in their 40's and are still just having fun and would love to meet a 22 yr old single girl. You and what your looking for can tell you if he is too old for you, you would both have to be at the same stage in your life, with him having a 9 yr head start. My mom's bf is 11 yrs older than her and he's the greatest. Best of luck to you
submart Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 9 years is not a big gap at all. I'm 22 as well, my man is 38. Couldn't be happier. We are both very serious about our relationship. Don't let age alone ruin a great possibly of romance.
Luvinit Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 You should never let age get in the way. The older you get, you realize just how meaningless age is when compaired to chemistry and an emotional connection.
MakeMeBeautiful Posted December 3, 2005 Posted December 3, 2005 Like the other poster said the age of a guy has nothing to do with how serious he is. It all depends on the guy. But generally men start to think about serious relationships in their 30s. I just got back from having coffee with a friend. He is 31 and he mentioned something about finding a girl so that she could tell him where they should go in life. I think guys start to think about settling down when they have their **** together. I dated a guy who is 33 and I got the impression that he was really looking to get serious with someone. Schooling all done, got tenure at the university, bought a house...he was ready to be husband and dad. I have another friend who is close to 40 and getting married is the furthest thing on his mind. The 31 year old friend did mention something about sure he would date a 22 year old girl but a 22 year old girl might now want to date him. Nine years is not that huge of a gap. It might seem like a big deal now but as you get older, the gap will become less important.
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