Sugardaddy Ramble Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 I recently had a blow-out with my live-in GF. She is 26 years old, and I am 48. I was divorced 1 1/2 years ago, and basically immediately became involved with her. She had nothing to do with the reasons for my divorce, which I wanted. As anyone who has ever been divorced will tell you, it is a bad idea to immediately get into another relationship which I did. Right after the divorce I thought I knew what I wanted, but that has completely changed over the past 1 1/2 years. I thought I wanted to get remarried and start another family, but now I definitely do not want to be remarried or have any more children. I thought I would be willing to totally support her financially, and now I think that is a bad idea. I totally accept fault that my mind has changed and my current desires are different from what I told my GF when we started our relationship. At the same time, I believe it is totally understandable why someone who has gone through a recent divorce may shift their views on such issues. Further as my desires shifted over the past year and a half, I have been totally upfront about it with my GF. I guess she kept hoping that I would change my mind, and keeps reminding me what I said when we first met. The fact that I totally supported my GF financially, and how this was perceived by others and somewhat by myself (that I was her sugardaddy) continued to bother me. Further her reluctance to get a job despite repeatedly telling me that she wanted to work, and telling me that money was not important seemed to conflict with how much she appeared to resist trying to support herself. After pressuring her and giving her financial incentive to do so (Every week she failed to get a job, her allowance would be reduced) She recently got a job for which she keeps 100% of her income for whatever she wants. I pay for everything she needs including, all living expenses and bills (housing, auto bills, insurance, groceries, auto repair). In addition to paying for all her bills, I continue to pay her an allowance of $350 per week for spending money. Literally the only thing she pays for related to living expenses is gas for her car. Despite the fact that she contributes not one cent toward any household bills, she complained tonight that she should not have to do any household chores. I guess the perception would be that indeed that I am her suggar daddy, and that she is my sex toy. As far as the suggar daddy part, I guess she can answer that. As far as the sex toy part, that could not be further from the truth since she has a far greater sex drive than I, and I would actually would be happier if we could not have sex as frequently, and could just cuddle at night. Believe it or not but I would be more content with the relationship if we never had sex, since I feel pressured on a daily basis when quite frankly I just don't feel like it. I do care for my GF as a friend and companion, although I feel as though I am buying this companionship through my financial support. Anyway sorry for the ramble, but in many ways I feel relieved that this relationship appears ready to end.
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