ghetto Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 I was with my fiancee for 4 years and at the end things got rough. I felt like the magic was lost. The kisses didnt feel the same. After sex I felt cold and didnt pay any attention to her. This girl was so wounderful but I guess it was the fact that we were 16 when we met. So we broke up because I felt like we needed to se what's out there and I did not want to be tied down. So she was in a lot of pain because she of all the love she had for me. Then she left the countryfor about 1 month just to get away. While she was gone I was ok I didnt really suffer or anything. She recently got back......she met a guy. She wa so happy and she showed me pics n videos of them two. Let me tell you after seeing those videos of them kissing and her telling me that he is the man of her dreams, I broke down. I felt like she took a few knives and stabbed me. I mean I couldnt move. I never felt that pain b4 it really hurt. So I told her how I felt because I figured I couldnt live without her. She said that if I was to change that she would forget about that special guy she met and work things out with me. Now that brings me to 2 more problems.am I going to hurt her again? Am I feeling like this because she was with someone else and I shouldve done the no contact thing? And #2 she mentioned that she has strong feelings for that other guy. And that its her dream guy but she can forget him. She also said she's happy now and that she enjoys being single. Do I want her back? If I take her back I cant break her heart again. And were 20yrs old. I do not know that if get back with her I will regret it, I dont know that. Another thing is that the fact that she said all those great things about that other guy is going to be in the back of my head for life. Thank you
chocolate_boy Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Sad as it sounds dude, looks like it's over. I wouldn't be surprised if you did manage to get back together and she ends up dumping you for this other dude anyway. Plus all the feelings you had before will come back after the initial euphoria has gone (a few weeks) and you're back where you were before. You felt that way for a reason, she didn't hold your interest (not her fault) she just isn't what you want deep down anymore. You're feeling this way now cos you've been replaced, it's an ego thing (but can feel like heartache).
fatcat Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 I Agree With The Last Post...its Over And You Blew It...but Its Better That You Broke Up Now Trying To Find What Else Is Out There Than When Youre 40 And Get The 7 Year Itch And Cheat On Her....now Get Off The Computer Start Meeting Those Hootchie Mamas, Theys Enough Out There!!!!
Author ghetto Posted December 4, 2005 Author Posted December 4, 2005 I didnt listen to you guys and for the past 3 days we deceided to give it a 2nd chance. Here's the part I dont understand. While I was with her these 3 days I felt like being free,doing things I couldnt do when I was with her. When I'm alone like today I feel like I made a big mistake. I start thinking about our plans we had and the dreams and all the stuff we where supposed to do. This girl would take a bullet for me. Last night when I told her I'm going to give up on the 2nd chance cuz I'm not sure if I'm really feeling inlove or not, we both started to cry and hug eachother. She started saying what happend to us. How can there not be nomore Grace and Junior? She right where are we? And right now I'm looking at what coudle been a wounderful future but then again if we start a relationship again I'm going to feel like being free. I dont understand
westernxer Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 Dude, you aren't ready to settle down, so stop messing with her feelings.
luvtoto Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 My opinion, I think you two love each other very much. There seems to be alot of history. I'm assuming that she was your first love? Oh man. On one hand, you really love her and don't want to lose her and it kills you to think that she's moving on with someone new. On the other hand, you are young! You two met very young, you need to be on your own, and have some 'years' to experience life. You are not a bad person for feeling that way. It is normal and healthy to have those ambitions. Sounds to me that you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. I see you are are trying to be fair to yourself here...my only advice, just be fair to her as well.
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