kg54 Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 hi i have a newe girlfriend and when i meet her i always put her down and say nothing nice to her but i always try to.when i am on my own i say that i will be nice to her but when it comes to meeeting her its different i cant say anything good at all any help would be good thx guys !!!!!!!
tinktronik Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Hello kg, Have you considered not dating this girl? If you cant be nice to her then wyh stick around to do more damage?
agnf666 Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 The only advice I am going to give you is that you need to be nice to her sooner or later or she probably leave you... Instead of putting her down try not to say anything... If she is your girlfriend then you should be able to say nice things to her. If you don't soon she is going to label you as an "a**h***" ... You don't want that too happen... Here is a good saying "IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!"
whichwayisup Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I don't know why you can't be nice or say something nice to your girlfriend. To me, it sounds like maybe you enjoy making fun of her or putting her down. Which honestly will grate on her nerves, make her feel bad about herself, she'll end up resenting you and dumping you. So, if you like her and want her in your life - Start complimenting her, make her feel good. Laugh, have fun and talk. Maybe you're nervous or something? I don't understand why you would say mean things to her.
Author kg54 Posted December 1, 2005 Author Posted December 1, 2005 yep i get really nervous and have nothing to say i dont even know how to talk to girls i always be like this mabe i need to seek some professional help??
Author kg54 Posted December 1, 2005 Author Posted December 1, 2005 tonight i sent her lots of texts saying that i really like her and when she rang me i was being nasty to her and she hung the phone so i sent her more texts saying that i really do like her and so on....but when we are in person its so different.
whichwayisup Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Then please, tell her you're nervous and you DO like her. That sometimes when you're feeling nervous you react and say things that you don't mean. Maybe that is a good idea, go see a therapist. To gain some self confidence. In the meantime, practice infront of the mirror. WRite yourself positive notes. Make a list of questions for you to ask her, like : Her interests, her past, growing up as a child, funny experiences, movies, family, stuff like that. Just show interest in her.
Author kg54 Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 ok thankyou alot for your help i will try it an see how it goes i get to meet her tomorrow anyway so thats my best chance so i will give it a shot thx again whichwayisup!!!
Author kg54 Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 i would like someone if they could as i live with my mum still and cant seem to tell her whats the matter with if anyone would give me there email so they can tell her that i need to seek professional help plz because i cant tell her that io feel this way and its really getting worse damn i am a depressed freak.
NYCmitch25 Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 hi i have a newe girlfriend and when i meet her i always put her down and say nothing nice to her but i always try to.when i am on my own i say that i will be nice to her but when it comes to meeeting her its different i cant say anything good at all any help would be good thx guys !!!!!!! You need therapy, did your parents, your father in particular always put your mother down? Where do you get this from? Can you think of things nice to say even if made up and work it into conversation?
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