txwildorchid Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I began dating my ex-bf 7 mths ago. Things between us moved along a bit quicker than I was accustomed to but by the end of 3 mths of dating, we began living together. After only living together for 4 mths, he got mad about me coming home an hour and a half later from the time I had said I would be home and then when I tried to explain to him what had happened and that my tardiness wasn't entirely within my control, he blew up at me, left and went to his parents. When he came home, he came home with his parents and he said that it was over and he was leaving. Later that same week, he moved out. I begged him to stay and tried to get him to talk to me. He's been gone for about 3 wks now and every day except one, we have either talked on the phone, emailed or have seen each other. He says now he's not sure what he wants and the only thing that he is willing to do is be friends and go from there. He's not sure if he wants to resume a relationship with me. He has told me that the reason why he left is because he had grown tired of me not being attentive enough to him and that I was not making him feel like he was part of my life and my sons' lives. I honestly don't know what more I could have done better. I don't want to put my life on hold forever for I have never been one to hang around and mope about a lost love but he has truly broken my heart. How long should I wait for him?
tinktronik Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Hello there, It sounds as if you are able to be friends without the relationship.IMO You could probably move on as soon as your ready to and continue to be friends with him ( as long as thats possible). It sounds from what you wrote that perhaps he was looking for a reason to leave, and now wants friendship instead of love. The personal time needed after a relationship for all of us is different , personaly I do a year alone before I move on to another relationship.But ultimitly that descision is up to you. Do you really think there is hope of reconciling the relationship?
fatcat Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Methinks He's Making An Excuse To Break Up Cuz He May Have Found Someone Else Or Wants To Be Free From You. If Thats A Pic Of You On The Avatar, You're Not Bad Looking, You'll Find Someone New Soon. If I Were In Some Lil' Texas Town, I'd Ask You Out. Anyways, Yah, Move On...anyone Who Makes Those Silly Excuses That You Mentioned From Him, He Wants Out. Good Luck, Babe.
Author txwildorchid Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 I know there is no hope for a relationship if both doesn't want it. And, right now, he doesn't want it and I can't make him. But, I believe that if he did want to make it work then we could do it. There wasn't much that had happened that makes me think otherwise. We would both have to be willing to forgive and forget and put the past behind us. I have let him know how I truly feel about him and I will just have to leave it at that. I guess it's better to have him as a friend if that's the way it's going to be. I figure I will give myself a little time and then eventually get back into dating! Speaking of dating...Thanks fatcat for the "if" date!
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