QueenieJD Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Okay, I have a fabulous bf of a year and a half. We are very much in love, and our relationship has been mostly full of ups rather than downs. However, I am the type of person to hold my feelings inside, most times I have found this to be a downfall. So if something angers me, or bothers me I just hold the feelings in and never let him know. But with reoccuring issues this is getting harder and harder to do and I want to tell him how I'm feeling. The biggest issue is drinking. In my family, my parents both don't drink at all and neither does my uncle which I spend lots of time with. Therefore, I'm not used to being around alcohol. He is away at college for the first time this year and drinking is becoming all too regular and I get a bad feeling in my stomach when he says hes going out, it makes me hold in my anger and I know its taking some wear on our relationship. I've decided I need to talk to him about it tonight!! Any advice to cope better, how to approach the issue with him or what to say??? I don't want to be the crazy, over protective gf because I always want the best for him and want him to have a good time. I don't want him to quit what he wants for me... I just want him to know how I feel. Please help!!
fusangite Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 It is very common for people entering college to drink quite heavily, especially men, far more heavily than they will drink at any later point in their lives. Because our culture chooses to withhold alcohol from people when they are adolescents, young adult culture, especially at colleges, centres around heavy drinking and binge drinking. But nine out of ten people who drink like alcoholics in their freshman year don't turn into alcoholics. My advice is to be tolerant and understand this as a kind of rite of passage for your boyfriend.
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