dcsre Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 hi.. i've been reading the posts and it seems my story isnt too unfamiliar..i've been talking with this great woman for about a year and half...this has been a long distance relationship from the beginning..i would fly out to see her every other month or so and we would talk on the phone a couple times a week...this went on for about 6 months like this..with me doing all the pursuing and calling..she was in the "not sure" phase..but i went ahead full steam...about 8 months ago, we officially started "dating" and even then, it was maybe every month that we saw each other...and even then it was still me putting in all the work..she has been very guarded with her feelings...she has never come to visit me, i always visit her... during our relationship, i have accepted a lot of things that she did as just "her"..like her negativeness..her laziness...those things didnt really bother me that much...even when we were dating, sometimes it would take so long to convince her to do something..like goign to my friend's wedding..i had to fight her tooth and nail to get her to go with me..and then even on the day of the wedding she was trying to get out of it...anyway, things have been like that for a while..she is very nice and very guarded..but over time, she let me in and started to feel more comfortable around me...and this i appreciate a lot.. then one weekend we went to meet her parents..and at first i was ok..but then that night i freaked out...the whole committed relationship scare jumped on me..i started to panic...i woke her up and we had a 2 hour conversation about my fears...then during thanksgiving when i visited we had a 5 day rocky turmoil filled weekend...basically me scared to death of being in a relationship and then questioning our future...now, its her as the strong one..reassuring me that things will be ok..but i just dont know now..all those things that i accepted before from her, now are problems..i also feel that in a long distance relationship we have been hiding a lot of our issues...anyway, we are on a break now... part of me misses her a lot because i do care for her..other part of me is happy to be free of the stresses of a relationship..part of me wonders if she is the right person...i think over time, as she gained interest in me, i began to lose interest..not so much that i dont care for her, but enough that i question our future.. any advice???? i am so confused..never felt like this before...
SuperMonk Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 yes, don't do long distance relationships again.
fatcat Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 Dude, Did You Forget To Take Your Lithium? Are You Like Manic-depressive? One Moment You're Insecure About Her Love For You And The Next Youre Unsure About A Commitment. Good Thing This Was A Long-distance Relationship Or Else She Would Have Blown You Off Sooner. Talk To A Therapist Or Start Drinking Heavily To Sort Out Your Mind. Good Luck.
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