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I thought I had a good handle on men .... until him. He flirts like crazy.... long glances, big smiles, invading my space to have a small conversation about nothing. So I've been thinking he's either 1) attached 2) shy or 3) gay but very friendly/flirty. I was able to find out its not #1.... I put myself clearly out there in case it was #2 and still nothing ... so I guess its number 3. Unless you all have another explanation.

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How about asking HIM what's going on?

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Maybe he's just really really thick and not picking up your signals. It's been known to happen before. He could be a very friendly person and straight. Fortunately or unfortunately, not every guy is going to want every girl (and vice versa).

 

If you really want him, you might have to hit him over the head with it.

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I wouldn't guess number 3..

 

If you clearly put yourself out there and left NO room for error then I would guess number 1.. maybe he is unhappy with what he has at home and is looking..

 

You might say something like.. hey if your gonna flirt with me like that you might want to back it up with dinner.. see what he says

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Thanks all. I'm still baffled. If hes that thick, or that shy, or just not really that interested then why waste my time? Might try calling him on it anyway - one last shot before I give up! Theres always someone in the wings.... but damn he's sexy! Oh well.

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Why the guessing games? Why any *games* period?

 

If you like the guy then tell him. He may be one of those guys who's not into *reading signals* from women - I am the same way as it is ridiculous - and he may be more comfortable with direct and open communication. The hell with this *signal reading* garbage... if you like the guy then tell him! :laugh:

 

IMHO, it seems that a lot of these *issues* may be resolved with some simple open and honest communication instead of this *batting the eyes*, *twirling with hair*, *biting lips*, and other forms of nonsense.

 

I am not a mindreader or a guesser. If someone is interested in me then they should just tell me... otherwise quit wasting your time cuz I'm not gonna sit there and decipher a bunch of signalling garbage. :)

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ok so, what if I during one of our not-so-meaningful conversations I flat out asked him if he was seeing anyone/had a gf ... and still got nothing - no moves, no 'can i call you sometime', no 'do you have a bf?' - nothing.

 

Do you still think he's confused about my signals?? I'm doubtful.

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ok so, what if I during one of our not-so-meaningful conversations I flat out asked him if he was seeing anyone/had a gf ... and still got nothing - no moves, no 'can i call you sometime', no 'do you have a bf?' - nothing.

 

Do you still think he's confused about my signals?? I'm doubtful.

 

If you did that then you're being direct - which is GOOD. If he is still *confused* afterwards then he needs an extended vacation at an asylum... not a GF.

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Maybe he's just friendly... Oh the horror!!

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Good news all.... I'm not losing my mind - or losing faith in my ability to read men!! He (finally) asked me to dinner, and did so with a well thought out specific plan for the evening. Love a man that takes the reins! Very sexy. :D

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