nyguidette Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 To sum this up as quickly as possible: J and I broke up 4 times and a fifth on Halloween. We started hanging out again 2 weeks later. B4 we always said "I love you" and talked about moving in and getting married. This time, I told him I loved him the other day and he did this growl thing. I said "you don't love me anymore?" and he just said "I do, I just don't feel like saying it"...then he said he didn't wanna jump back into a relationship with me. Is he just using me, or could he be trying to take it slow since it didn't work the last 4 times we jumped right back into it? FYI: We broke up all those times b/c I have a lot of emotional issues from being in an abusive relationship and I am always paranoid of getting hurt (Incase that alters the response)!
notsohappy Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 ...4 breakups because you are paranoid....how many times does he have to come back. I have been thru a similar breakup recently because of similar circumstances...can't get over the past, so ANYTHING that happens, she blamed me, and villainized me. Eventually, its not worth it.
Author nyguidette Posted December 1, 2005 Author Posted December 1, 2005 I never blamed him or accused him of anything...I just fought with him b/c I need so much reassurance and he didn't give it to me...(which I KNOW he shouldn't have to, but...)
notsohappy Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 ...but he has to realize that its your "baggage" causing the problem. Until you can convince him that he's not stepping into breakup number 5, you have no chance. Us guys may be hard headed, but we're not total idiots.
Author nyguidette Posted December 8, 2005 Author Posted December 8, 2005 Ok...to add to this, I asked him i I was just a "piece of @ss" to him and he got mad and said "I don't know"...I said I was gonna assume that I was if he couldn't answer and he said "Go ahead and assume what you want..you're going to anyway"...then went on to say "I told you I just didn't want to jump into anything and the ONE day I don't hang out with you, you start trippin out". ???????
sunaddict1 Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 first of all....how long have you guys been together total? If he cant answer that you are just a piece of ass then he is a jerk! That is messed up! all girls assume and over analyze things (well not all but most) . If you guys have a solid past and loved each other...you should NEVER be just a piece of ass. he needs to be a little more compassionate for you! and not hanging out for ONE day can make us girls go crazy! We like being around alot! But you need to see that he does keep coming back...if he didnt like you or want to be with you...he doesnt have to. I think he is just taking it slow...did he have a bad relationship before?
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