kpin124 Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Hello i am really needing some support right about now i am about ready to have a major break down i think..... well i am still talking with my mm and i haven't told my h yet about the a but right now i am really wondering if this is all really worth it... we went on vacation over thanksgiving and i haven't been in contact with mm for 9 days now when i left he told me he would talk to me on tuesday so i have tried to talk to him everyday starting on tuesday and he won't respond we normally talk by txting back and forth very rarely by phone he doesn't want it to show on his cell bill and i understand that... i am just feeling really down because he won't respond to me and i don't know if something is wrong or what ...... really i just needed to vent i am about ready to txt him and tell him that i will just call the house and talk to his w and see if he is ok ... maybe that will get him... no that is mean i would never call and talk to his w but i am sure it would get him to respond to me.... o i am just so confused there is something that just draws me to him and i can't stop why is that ..... why why why ...... some days i want this to be all over and then other days i want him so bad that i get so upset when he does this to me it is just a big rollercoaster ride and i am about ready to get off....
newbby Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 dont really know what to say, why are you having an a? whats up with your marriage?
Author kpin124 Posted December 1, 2005 Author Posted December 1, 2005 well i guess you could say lack of attention at home.... don't really feel wanted by my h we just kind of are there.... also my h had an a with a girl from his work over a year ago well i think he did he denies it but i don't believe him anyway those are a few reasons why i am having an a .... i am just really confused
Sami_D Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 You talk about telling your H about the affair... Is it possible you had the A to get back at him because he (maybe) had one..? I think you maybe need to work on this thing with your H first. Have you thought about MC?
Author kpin124 Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 yes i think my h had an a about 2 years ago with a girl he worked with lasted about 6 months..... he denys it but i don't believe him i have solid proof that something was going on i just don't know if they slept with each other..... i might be doing this to get back at him i don't know i know that last night i had a really bad night thinking about all of this and wondering what i should do. today is better i am trying to not think about mm and focus on my h and our marriage.... i think mc is a good idea but my husband won't go i have tried before but he will not go and i don't really know why... maybe i should go and see someone for myself that might not be a bad idea.....
Sami_D Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 I think seeing someone for yourself would be a great idea. You said in your OP that you feel on the edge of a breakdown. Can you manage to set yourself up with some counselling of some sort soon..?
Author kpin124 Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 i think i can do that...... i really did alot of thinking about all this last night and did some devotional reading and it really seemed to help. i am going to check into seeing someone i am not real sure how it works i don't know if i need a doctors refferal or not..... but yes i am going to do it soon : ) right now it has been 11 days since i have talked to mm so i really think that could be a good thing the longer we go with not talking the easier this will be....
dontwanttoloosehim Posted December 4, 2005 Posted December 4, 2005 dont tell your husband about the affair ever. If you really want him break it off a.s.a.p. Men value their Pride. Your his wife count yourself blessed, work on things together. Thats if you want. Take it one step at a time and the first step wpuld be to let the other person go for now. Itw ill help you clear your head it seems you need time for you now.
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