aliceinwonderland Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 ok.. this is a simple question... ok.. well this guy likes me and i like him.. we aren't officially together.. but it is coming to that point. anyways.. so whenever he texts me, i happen to reply immediately.. when i text him.. he sometimes takes a few hours, or texts back the following day. i think he does it purposely.. for whatever game playing reason. my question should i do the same to him? or is that just stupid? p.s. why must we play stupid games??
BigB Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 maybe he's just busy? You might want to wait to reply once in a while. Replying right away everytime might make you seem a little desperate...
AlmostMarried77 Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 If you don't like playing games then don't play them. Simple as that A few years back I had got a girls number when i was out one night. Next day chatting to a friend I was asking him how long should I wait before contacting her. His response: "F*ck it, if you like her then text her now". I did and she replied back within a minute. unfortunately we only lasted one date If i could bet on this, i would put my money on this guy not playing games with you. He just doesn't think its rude not to text back straight away
Walk Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 If i could bet on this, i would put my money on this guy not playing games with you. He just doesn't think its rude not to text back straight away I agree with this one. My bf (and I know he loves me) would wait hours, or even a day to text me back. I talked to him about it. Said it made me wonder if he was ignoring me, or upset with me, or what... He said he just didn't see it (some of the texts) as needing a quick reply, or he got busy, or whatever. I told him how I felt, he said how he felt. Now he tries to text back right away, unless he is busy. But I know that if I don't get one right back then it's not cause he's ignoring me, or not wanting to talk with me. Sometimes guys don't realize what there doing affects us a certain way. It's best to ask questions first, before making assumptions.
witabix Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Works both ways ladies! My g/f sometimes responds straight away, sometimes takes hours. Sometimes bothers me a tiny bit, like now! I am going for a drink tonight, texted her to ask her to join me, over an hour no reply. So I will just do my own thing till I here. I wouldn't sweat it, just relax and do your own thing till he replies.
whichwayisup Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I think he's doing it to see how interested you are, to keep you on your toes and get you guessing. I don't believe it's malcious or cruel intent here. Don't focus on him so much...It's like he knows you're there, he IM's you and you pounce on that IM asap...So, take your time and then later on email him, but do not IM him.
Fun2BMe Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I think him delaying a response is an indirect passive agressive way he uses to show you he is not as interested in you as you would like to think even though he really may be. He knows the result is to make you all anxious like you are but many guys purposely pull this crap. If I like a guy I text and he takes a long ass time to reply, I confront him and they always make lame excuses which turns me off. When I take a while to respond, they get all bent out of shape at me. Next time wait the same amount of time it took him to last respond before you respond, see how much he likes playing that game.
roadx Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 Sometimes the network is slow. I remember once someone told me that they sent an text message to me but I never received it. Then it arrived several hours later.
Author aliceinwonderland Posted December 2, 2005 Author Posted December 2, 2005 ok so it could be any of those reasons that you guys have suggested.. i am still going for the 'game playing' reason.. just to play it safe. he text'd me the following morning.. i will text him this afternoon. thanx guys!
FataMorgana Posted December 2, 2005 Posted December 2, 2005 the other thing with texting..you are assuming he is getting the message straight away..it might not be so. I keep my phone in my bag and check it every so often, more often not, hence it might be a few hours before someone sends the message ...until you get to see it. If want ugent communication is always safer to ring, that way you know for sure if you talk to them.
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