Tumi Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I have been working for my boss (a married man) for 3 years and in the last few months we began flirting. Prior to this flirting we got along well and had a good friendship. He has let on that he is unhappy in his marraige, but has said that he is not planning on leaving his wife because of money. Soon the flirting turned into more and we spent the night together twice. After the second time, we decided that it could not go on because we are/will get too emotional. However, now I see him at work and it HURTS so badly and I have become so angry at him. I am now considering leaving my job. Will this pain/anger I have towards him ever go away if I report to him directly? Should I leave my job if I have a good opportunity?
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 He has anger towards you because you were hurt that he broke it off? I definately would leave that job if something better came along. You shouldn't have to leave, but due to the stupid situation (I'm sorry) he allowed to get out of hand - Not only was it UNPROFESSIONAL of him, he is your BOSS. And ofcourse, being married. You should leave. I'm not sure if reporting him will do any good as it seemed both of you at the time were willing and able...It's only if he makes you life a living hell at work, tries to get you fired, but until then just stay out of his way and do the job. I don't know what else to say, except maybe talk to a lawyer just incase.
Author Tumi Posted November 30, 2005 Author Posted November 30, 2005 Thank you for your reply and your advice. I am sorry - I mistyped in my post - I am angry towards him. I am hurt after sleeping with him and having to see him at work and pretend like nothing happened. He is not angry, but he acts like nothing happened and it hurts. Even if he did address it and or even continue the relationship, I don't know if it would change my hurt/anger.
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 HE has to pretend nothing happened...It's a work environment. He isn't going to want this to go around the office...Just like I'm sure you don't want to be the brunt of office gossip either. I'm sure it hurts, but ending it is the best outcome now. Put yourself first, try your best to just focus on work, once away from the office - Get out with girl friend and have some fun! Laugh and be silly...Forget about him. He's married too, so that is a double whammy.
Rodeogirl Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 It's hard to move on jaykay when the dic is good. I would leave the job and keep hittin that.
westernxer Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Play hardball with him until you get a raise and other perks that will make your job a cake walk.
Tiny Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Play hardball with him until you get a raise and other perks that will make your job a cake walk. Hmm take this advice and sell yourself some more, there again you could always ring/threaten to ring his wife and win the jackpot $200 000k i say
westernxer Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Hmm take this advice and sell yourself some more, there again you could always ring/threaten to ring his wife and win the jackpot $200 000k i say Sounds like someone has a hard time swallowing me this morning.
Tiny Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Things are always harder too swallow in the mornings, espiecially things from the CityOf "Angles" area
westernxer Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Things are always harder too swallow in the mornings, espiecially things from the CityOf "Angles" area Haha. This city is full of surprises, like married bosses.
Tiny Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Haha. This city is full of surprises, like married bosses. You mean that's actually a surprise
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