chebella37 Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Maybe someone could translate this? I've been involved in a LDR since 08/05; not long by any means. During the first two weeks of communication, he said that if he told his best friend about me, that his friend would tell him he'd better marry me. Yesterday, when discussing religion, mother's marriage, family etc., he blurts out that when he gets married, he wants a Rabi friend to perform the ceremony; he's not converting, just wants his friend to officiate if possible. I didn't get it at first, but later on I'm thinking.... "Does this guy have marriage on his brain? And, if he does, why doesn't he just say so?" He knows I care very deeply for him, and I would hate to think he's the type who would toss around the "M" word very casually. We won't get together for Christmas this year, but he's coming to my state in late winter. So, is it entirely possible that I may get a marriage proposal soon?
Outcast Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Please don't hope for a proposal from someone you don't even know and haven't been in contact with for very long. Calm down, wait until he visits, and spend at least a couple years getting to know him, especially getting to know him in person before you make any lifetime decisions.
Steph21 Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I recently dated a guy who kept using the "M" word very soon in the relationship. Then I kind of scoffed at it and he broke up with me soon thereafter! I really think some guys do have marriage on the brain, which is weird because you usually think of women as being like that. But I'd be cautious of anyone who wants to get that serious so fast. It could mean they have major flaws and want to get you to commit before you figure them out.
Author chebella37 Posted November 30, 2005 Author Posted November 30, 2005 We met on eHarmony, and I've already been to see him. We're in our late 30's, and single again after 10 years; we both joined eHarmony to find someone to love and spend the rest of our lives with. I was just wondering about his use of the "M" word, and if it really means anything at all.
Lil Honey Posted December 1, 2005 Posted December 1, 2005 I say, "Go slow, there's no hurry." he said that if he told his best friend about me, that his friend would tell him he'd better marry me. I take this to mean that his best friend would think that you are a better match for your bf than any previous woman. Yesterday, when discussing religion, mother's marriage, family etc., he blurts out that when he gets married, he wants a Rabi friend to perform the ceremony; he's not converting, just wants his friend to officiate if possible. I would think that he said that simply to voice what he would like. He was taking part in the conversation.
uRabbit Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 I dunno about you, but marriage is always on my mind. Not whether or not I wanna get married to the girl I'm with, but just marriage in general. <i>Do I want a large wedding, or small? I'd like it to be outdoors. I doubt I'll have a best-man, 'cause I don't have a best friend; all my friends are equal. It probably won't be traditional...</i> I talk to my girlfriend about these things and she replies casually. So we both understand that there's a possibility that we'll get married (we've known each other exactly as long as you two have), but never say we will. My ex-girlfriend started talking about naming our first-born five months into it... Chya... Strange. But I guess I'm a great guy. Hehe. Anyway, I wouldn't fret over it. And I wouldn't think optimisitically or pessimistically about it, either. It's marriage. It's important to most people. And most people (like myself) don't just date, but have a relationship with the hopes of finding their life partner.
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