Morboro Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Hi I met this quite girl at a work course I did for two days, we got along great. I offered to drive her to meet her mother at a mall one night after the course, because she didn't have a car to get there. Also when we got there she introduced me to her mother. I managed to get her number and I gave her a call and asked her if she was interested in meeting up on the weekend. She said she was not feeling well, I really didn't believe her from the tone of her voice. I also sent her a few friendly sms's to her and got no reply, so I thought she was not interested so I didn't pursue her anymore, even though I was very interested in her. Anyway a few days later she rang up and asked if I was going to a work function because she wanted to see me again (we work in different offices). This filled me with joy because I thought she might be interested in me. So from the fist moment we said hello to each other at the work function she was giving me the cold shoulder, avoided eye contact, arms crossed, would not make much conversation, and would quickly move and talk to another person when she had the chance. She made me feel awful, it really hurt me. I'm just so totally confused with her, I can't understand what I did wrong. Any ideas as to why this happened? Also we are both young only 21. Thanks!
d'Arthez Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Forget about her. It seems (at best) she is into game playing, and that is something you really do not need. And at worst she simply is not interested in you, and has used you for the second occasion as a means of comfort / driver, or whatever applies.
Author Morboro Posted November 30, 2005 Author Posted November 30, 2005 I dunno why women are so weird and cruel for. If I ever find a decent female I will most likely die of shock, lol
westernxer Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 You want to win her over? Ignore her. Chicks at work hate this, especially when they know you're somewhat interested.
Black Ivy Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 It's quite possible that she's extremely shy or doesn't know how to act around guys that she likes and the pressure of being around you (espeically in a formal social setting) totally has her freaked out. Then she could also be a bitch. I'm just throwing it out there.
whichwayisup Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I think you need to come right out and say to her wtf is going on, you are giving me the hot/cold dance and I don't like it. DO you want to go out sometime? IF yes, great, I'll pick you up and take you out for dinner. IF not, tell me so I'm not wasting my time on someone who is dicking me around. Then see her reaction. OR...YOu could do the ignore thing, then if she does call you - That's when you talk to her about s*** or get off the pot.
Sand&Water Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I somewhat agree with Black Ivy. I think, this girl, is exteremly shy. You said that shes 21. Thats young, and its normal at that age to be shy at large social gatherings. You've just met her, and I think shes just trying to get comfortable and open up a little bit with you. Part of that has to do with showing her that your interested and that just doesnt mean stopping at one phone call/sms message. Just give her some time, and appreciation and she'll eventually come around. Good Luck
Tangerina Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 Actually, I think that might not have been a bad sign... I mean, yeah, it really sucked, but I know sometimes when I kind of know someone... like say I worked with them in class one time or something, sometimes I feel really awkward when I see them again because I am not sure at what level to interact with them at even though we have shown each other interest in being friends.... it is just because we don't have any set patterns and all of a sudden there is a situation in which there is no framework for the interaction so you feel uncomfortable... this only happens to me sometimes and it really depends on how the other person is action, but she just might be feeling like she wants to talk to you and look at you etc but is embarassed about you possibly noticing all of the attention so she doesn't know how to act....
Author Morboro Posted December 5, 2005 Author Posted December 5, 2005 Hi guys thought I would give you a bit of an update. I sent her an SMS last week and asked her how was everything and just a quick work related question. She didn't reply for a few days so I thought she was not interested, She replied on Friday afternoon and said she had been sick all week. Still how sick can you be not to send an SMS? I asked her what was wrong and got no reply. And this morning (Monday here) she sends me an sms saying she was fired, she must have sent me it as soon as she got the fired because it was only like 8:30am. (I wont do into the details of how she got fired). So I just sent her a supportive sms and have yet to receive any reply. I'm confused here to be honest, she ignores me a lot but when something major happens like getting the sack she's onto me straight away. I mean she would have told her best friend and her mum, because they are the only people she really only knows from what she has told me. Why does she do this to me, it's really hard to work out if she wants to be just friends or possibly something a little bit more serious. I just can't stand the fact that she will ignore me every now and then, it really gets to me. I want to send sms's all the time but I don't want to act as if I'm clingy or a 'nice guy' but I suppose she already has that image, can that be reversed? I feel like giving her a call later on in the week to see if she would like to have a friendly get together for some afternoon tea somewhere, to catch up. But I just have this feeling like she will decline.
itwontdawnsooner Posted December 5, 2005 Posted December 5, 2005 hi morboro, if you dont like the way she is making you feel - and dont think its right for her to be selectivley ignoring your texts (come on, she is... youre right, no matter how sick/busy, you can take 2 seconds to type a simple response). it would bother me, dont text her anymore. if youre worried about whether youre doing something wrong, meanwhile she's the one not texting/being mixed at best or playing games, screw that.
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