downcydeguy Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 Aside from the horndogs here, would any guy over the age of 21 get serious with a virgin? It sounds silly initially but here's why I ask. I've had 2 friends take their girlfriends' virginity - the guys were 22 and 23, the girls were 17 and 19. Both were in love but got equally hurt when they were dumped within 2 to 3 years. I am going through it right now. I was 25 and she was 18. The thing is, I had been hurt before so I had a serious talk with her long before we had sex. I told her that she should make sure she's completely in love with me first or she'll regret ever doing it. Needless to say, we eventually had sex. I loved her and felt she loved me. And actually, we lasted 2 1/2 years before she left me. I saw it coming before I ever slept with her though. My friends did not, as most seem not to or don't care to. So here I am, back to the question. If you met a younger girl and found out she was a virgin, would you get apprehensive knowing that there's pretty much less than .5% chance that she'll stay with you forever? It sounds so good in theory but I would never do it again. I'm completely crushed right now and don't want to go through this again.
JS17 Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 I don't think it has anything to do with her being a virgin.
d'Arthez Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 I agree with JS17. Virginity is not the issue. But (lack of) maturity is. That is not even age-dependent, but depends on other characteristics.
JS17 Posted November 29, 2005 Posted November 29, 2005 I suppose that wasn't too insightful of me. Guess I'm just worn out from the other thread. I maintain that I don't believe virginity to be the issue and agree that maturity and/or life experience is. The stigma attached to virgins is generally the opposite, that they become more attached than they would have otherwise. It is more common these days for someone who is 18 years old to not be ready to settle down with someone. They need to see what is out there either because it is their need or society dicates that they should need it. I know you're holding out hope that she will come back to you. It's a possiblity but I haven't heard of any cases like it personally. sorry.
Genod422 Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I don't know. My ex was a virgin when we started dating and still is at 19 years of age after we dated for a year and a half. Now she is going out and partying and wanting to see other people and she could have lost it so someone she truly loved (at one point she did love me) but will probably lose it in a drunk stuper or to someone she thinks she likes enough, sad and immature. I think the sex thing is an issue but a small one with virgins minds.
SMHappyface Posted November 30, 2005 Posted November 30, 2005 I think as it was mentioned it is the age factor, not the sexual experience factor. All the girls mentioned are in their teens. Most relationships don't last forever, so blaming it on their sexual experience isn't probably correct. I applaud you for having a talk with her BEFORE having sex with her - that was mature. And watching the now non-virgin have fun post-breakup, well, any other girl probably would too. Everybodies got to loss it someday, so you being the first or the 103rd doesn't probably really change the strength of the relationship.
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